rd1978 Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 me and this girl have been basically best friends for about 13 or so years since middle school,, we have always been there for each other ,, while dating others throughout the years,, there was always some kind of attraction and we always joked with each other,,,never faught and had a very good friendship,,, in the past 5 years or so i had a serious gf and she had a serious bf,, we still remained great friends and inbetween break up's with our s/o,,, we would end up seeing - talking more even though we talked like 3-4 times a week anyway,,, we have hooked up in these times nothign major ,, just drunking kisses etc.etc. but i was the shy guy never made the move's dont know why,,, i know she wasnt the happiest with her bf,, and me and her were musch closer than they would have ever been,, so now we are bolth single and have been been hanging out,, she flirts like crazy with me gets jelious of other girls that i have any relations with,,,i can tell she is diggin me,,,,, to what extent and what reason i dont know,, we are very comfortable with each other,, there are a handfull of people that would love to see us togethor family-friend etc. they know we are great for each other,, we have bolth been acting a lil different because i know we are bolth confused,, about a month ago we were drunk 1 night and put in a position where she kissed me,,,i havent made a move since we have been out to eat movies a couple of times etc,, we talk every day sometimes 2-3 times a day--had a conv with her best friend tonight ,, she said this girl is starting to see thing differently about me ,, and how good of a person i am etc.etc.when she asked her what was going on with us she wanst sure etc.etc. and if she liked me she didnt give her much of an awnser {didnt say no} ,, but said things are def changing,,since we have been hanging out ,, her friend also said talking to you and her sound the same you are bolth saying the same things to me we bolth acnowledge there is something but dont know what to do about it ,, the advice she gave me is just to see what happens ,, because that is what my friend is doing,, just kinda seeing if its going anywhere now heres the thing,, i know there is another guy in the pic,, someone introduced them ,, i knwo he calls her i dont know what the deal is ,, it may be something it may be nothing ,, i know they have hung out but to what extent im not sure,,, she doesnt talk about him,, to either of us,, she knows she cant talk about him to me ,, because itll ruin the chance of anything that may happen with us,,,,, i cant talk to her about it,,, so do i just go in and make a move next time i see her and take it from there ,, i have a feeling if we started to get physical there would be alot more feelings comming out for bolth of us that we ignored for a long time,we showed feeling by being flirtatious and comments but that was it,, i know i cant get mad or jelious of anyone else because we arent togethor ,, she had gotten jelious of an fwb i had but she had been dropped when we starting hanging out,,, sorry so long an un thaught couldnt sleep and had nothing else to do at 2 am,, any advice would be helpfull Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 She is your best friend of 13 years and you can't talk to her about it? That would be my first suggestion. You don't want to lose her friendship if something goes wrong. Be honest, tell her you'd like more, and ask if she sees anything more than friendship there. If not, you should stop fooling around with each other, because someone WILL get hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rd1978 Posted October 28, 2005 Author Share Posted October 28, 2005 well i can talk to her about it,, i had an idea we bolth feel the same to an extent but that was just going by actions and certain thigns that have been said,, we never have talked about it,, her friend is the one that mentioned that there was somethign there,, not me just guessing,,,,,, the thign is i do feel somethign almsot needs to spark the feelings to see where they are really going to go,, we are very comfortable with each other ,, and i feel sometiems it takes somethign to realize what you genuinely have or what you lost ,, so thats why i was planning on making move to see where it would go,, and yes you are right someone will get hurt if thigns arent gone about the right away im realizing this ..........and as far as her talking to this other guy ive realized she isnt anyone's and she can do what she wants,, and second i havent talked to her about how i feel about her so thats my own fault and i suppose i need to realize this,, but 1 way or another something has to happen soon,, it just bugs me a bit that she hasnt told me about this other guy,, but i suppose she would know how i would react considering she asked me not to talk to or see an fwb i had one night after we hung out Link to post Share on other sites
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