jason4233 Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 In feb. my wife went to texas for 2 weeks and while she was there she sleep with a guy she had just meet. I thought something was worng when she came home but she didnt say anything. well a few days later i decided to check her e-mail (i know this is worng) but i was curious well in her e-mail i found out that she did in fact sleep with this guy and they were still keeping in touch. after a few days of talking and tring to think things through i decided to stay with her. weve been married for 5 years and we have two kids. well its been 8 months and im still jealous and now she is gone for 3 weeks in califonia. (her job requires her to travel form time to time) so being the jealous person i am i have been calling her about two times a day but she doesnt want to talk very long on the phone she is either to tired or has to get back to work. when were togeather she acts like me and the kids are everything but when she leaves she acts like shes single and the real question im tring to ask is what should i do and how do i stop being jealous? thanks Mr. Jealous Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 You have every right to be jealous. I wouldn't trust her either. She is the one with the issues, not you. If she wants to hold on to your marriage then she's got to start showing you some respect. Thought about marriage counselling? Don't let her walk all over you and do what she wants, when she wants. It sounds like you're letting her get away with this. Link to post Share on other sites
glittergurl Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 She's acting like a selfish B?tch. Did you actually talk this out with her, or did you keep it all to yourself? I wouldn't trust her either, my God, I'd be devastated if I found out my husband cheated on me. Not sure how you've been able to handle this without freaking out. She's a wife, and a mother of two; these two roles don't go out the window as soon as she leaves home. She needs to realize that. She's acting like a 16 year old. Link to post Share on other sites
SILLYRABBIT Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 If my wife ever,EVER cheated on me, that would be the end of us. I don't know how you have not gone insane. It is not healthy to live with such insecurity and anger. Has she expressed any guilt? Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 Let me see if I get this right: Your wife goes to texas for two weeks and has sex with a stranger and puts your health at risk for STD's. She did not confess but you caught her instead. One would have to assume that since she travels a lot the chances are pretty good that this was not the first time rather it was the first time she was caught. A stranger no less who could have had aids. I think you need to protect your children. It sounds like she has been playing you very well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jason4233 Posted October 29, 2005 Author Share Posted October 29, 2005 your right zaira i really do let her get away with alot. in that sence i know im itn the wrong. but thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author jason4233 Posted October 29, 2005 Author Share Posted October 29, 2005 hi glitter i did talk it out with her i even went as far as asking for every detail. sounds bad but i didnt ever want to have any ?s in the back of my head and i thought if i knew everything then it would be easier to get over it but i was wrong. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author jason4233 Posted October 29, 2005 Author Share Posted October 29, 2005 hey silly she has expressed guilt but only for a short while and a few weeks later she acted like nothing ever happend. i always said if it happend i would split but i love her so i guess that is why im still here but im thinking that it was a bad choice. thaks Link to post Share on other sites
Author jason4233 Posted October 29, 2005 Author Share Posted October 29, 2005 bryanp thanks that is the first thing i said to her. see she has her tubes tied so we dont us protection and we had sex a few times before i found out so for the last few months ive been going in and getting test just to make sure. and your right i thought this not being the first time to but that is all that i have proof on. Link to post Share on other sites
glittergurl Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 Jason, don't just sit there passively. If it was me, I'd kick her out! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jason4233 Posted October 29, 2005 Author Share Posted October 29, 2005 its a hard thing to do i love her but yet its killing me inside i know i should but shes the mother of my kidos and hell i dont know i guess im stupid on that part. it was always easy for me to say it but now that it is here im scared ****less. Link to post Share on other sites
glittergurl Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 You're too good for her, Jason. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 30, 2005 Share Posted October 30, 2005 Is this guy she slept with married or seeing someone? Find out. Maybe the OM's partner needs to know what happened too - And that will definately stop it from continuing. She is accountable to you and your kids. Lay it out on the table for her. Either she is an openbook with you, gives you access to emails/cell etc, anytime you want and she has to head to marriage counselling to fix things, OR she can leave. Without the kids. Sorry for your pain, I'm sure you are terrified, but something has to happen. She can't continue doing what she is doing, it's not fair to you or your children. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jason4233 Posted October 30, 2005 Author Share Posted October 30, 2005 thanks glitter Link to post Share on other sites
Author jason4233 Posted October 30, 2005 Author Share Posted October 30, 2005 whichway the guy she sleep with is engaged or at least going by the e-mails but i have no way of getting in touch with his girl to tell her. when she gets back from cali. i think im going to do just that i have been checking out plane tickets on moving and places to stay. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Steedman Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 whichway the guy she sleep with is engaged or at least going by the e-mails but i have no way of getting in touch with his girl to tell her. when she gets back from cali. i think im going to do just that i have been checking out plane tickets on moving and places to stay. thanks Well you have his e-mail address right? So sent him a *$%$'in message he won't forget! Link to post Share on other sites
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