cottoncandy Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Is age really only a number when it comes to relationships? when is the age gap too much of a difference,... or should it matter.. no matter what the age difference is?
alooshii Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Not really, I've dated a girl who was 20 and I was 14, 6 years difference..she then started to have feelings for another person and broke it off with me...I don't care tho, nothin serious.. And now I'm with the strongest love relationship ever with my girlfriend me and her been together for a year and 5 months, and she's a year older than me, I'm 15 she's turning 16 this Monday..so yeah, age doesn't really matter.
Hot Coco Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 That's such a good question! My exH and I were 19 years apart. Our differences had nothing to do with age. I guess I would say it doesn't matter. People's temperaments and values matter more to me. Comparable intelligence level I think is very important too. So I don't think age is a real factor when it comes to whether a relationshiop will succeed or not. The only time I think the age difference would be a problem is on the issue of having children. Other than that, well I don't think it is a real factor.
Neptune Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 I believe age is important. But there are times when a relationship just doesn`t have the usual range of normality, and that can be a number of things. Age being one of them. Here is a formula I use to keep my head straight and to keep it real. Otherwise my imagination may get the better of me: Divide a man`s age in half and add seven to it as the MINIMUN age a woman should be for him. So, 50 divided in half plus 7 is 32. I just think this keeps it real. But not ideal. I think 32 is still sorta young and 42 is more like getting there for me.
RecordProducer Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Here is a formula should be for him. So, 50 divided in half plus 7 is 32. In 1.5 years I will be 32 and my SO will be 50. But how do I retain the ideal difference in 10 or 20 years too? I think men of all ages like when a woman looks like 25, lives like 35, and acts like 45.
Neptune Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 RP You are good to go with your guy. You will always be inside the realm of the formula. Now about looking 25, lives like 35 and acting 45, I could live with that:cool:
Art_Critic Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 I think men of all ages like when a woman looks like 25, lives like 35, and acts like 45. RP.. I'm confused what you meant by this.. Could you explain what your are saying this.. It's going over my head for some reason..
RecordProducer Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 RP.. I'm confused what you meant by this.. Could you explain what your are saying this.. It's going over my head for some reason.. Hahah! I meant she looks like a young girl (25), but lives a more serious life (responsible, mature, yet lively) like at age 35. She has the maturity and emotional wisdom of a 45-year old woman. E.g. I look 25, but my BF doesn't want a 25-year old brain and wildness. He expects me to be mature and stable as if I am 45, but still enjoy life as people do at 35. You can change the age figures, but the point is that the required physical, emotional, and mental "configuration" for a woman matches a few different ages at once.
AlmostMarried77 Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 Divide a man`s age in half and add seven to it as the MINIMUN age a woman should be for him. So, 50 divided in half plus 7 is 32. I just think this keeps it real. But not ideal. I think 32 is still sorta young and 42 is more like getting there for me. I'm 28, my wife is 21 Do the maths Seriously though, i've never really felt any sort of obvious age gap between us. If anything, shes generally the sensible one and she's the most intelligent girl i've ever met.
MJH Posted November 2, 2005 Posted November 2, 2005 Age really is a state of mind, a couple meet and the chemistry works between them, who cares about age ? obviously you both have to be healthy and have an interest in things but generally age should not be a problem, maybe it is society that has the problem and not the couple concerned.
ellen3143 Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 I am 13 years older then my husband and age really doesn't play a part in the relationship. Sure there are somethings you can say well its a maturity thing, but in the overall scheme of things age is just a number and you have to consider are you compatable? We have similiar likes and dislikes and the same values when it comes to the children. Who cares what the age as long as you love each other and get along.
SmoochieFace Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 My GF is almost nine years older than me and it is definitely a good thing. I would never be with anyone my age or younger again.
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