digger Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 After 18 months of hoping ill be treated like a human, Ive had it. My daughter and EW were ALWAYS JOINED AT THE HIP AND IM SICK OF IT. mAYBE IT TOOK ME THIS LONG TO GROW A BACKBONE. iVE BEGGED PLEADED AND WHINED. No more!!!! All good things come to an end. My birthday is today. My daughters was 3 days ago. We had these grandoise plans (or maybe i did) that we'd spend the day together, which we are..but i was hoping she would stay overnight with me. When i mentioned it, she whined like a 4 yr old "but iiiiii dont want to". Why? Because i will feel uncomfortable. But im your father!!! I dont wannnnnnt to. I have to be to work at 9am. Ok so we'll leave at 8. I'M NOT GETTING UP THAT EARLY!! Can u believe it. Imagine an 18 yr old who sounds like shes 4 and thats just what she did. Im tired of it all. Only time she can see me for a breif moment is when she knows theres a gift involved. I'll tell you this, this day is planned but as far as im concerned the next time she'll god**** see me is when im in my grave. I have a son (retarded) 500 miles away who calls me everynight to say "hey pop how you doing". Why do i stick around here to be beatin in the chops. Thank you god for helping me see the light. I know what you want me to do. There ARE people who care. Twenty three years i work like a dog to give em the best and i get this. To bad momma doesnt have the balls to tell her daughter to have something to do with me. It didnt fall far from the tree. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 you have my empathy, digger, there's nothing like having to deal with a spoiled rotten brat, and I'm not meaning to be offensive here. Sometimes tough love is the only way to keep control of a bad situation with kids, which sounds like what you're forced to resort to. My guess is that while she may fuss and complain about you being "mean" she may grow to respect you as she matures. You are NOT a bad parent, just a hopeful one .... try to cherish the good about your daughter as you practice that tough love with her, and in the meantime, find solace in your son's unconditional love. I think it's a fair assessment to say that every family has that one person who gives love freely, and every family has that one who cannot beyond him or her self. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 29, 2005 Share Posted October 29, 2005 you have my empathy, digger, there's nothing like having to deal with a spoiled rotten brat, and I'm not meaning to be offensive here. Sometimes tough love is the only way to keep control of a bad situation with kids, which sounds like what you're forced to resort to. My guess is that while she may fuss and complain about you being "mean" she may grow to respect you as she matures. You are NOT a bad parent, just a hopeful one .... try to cherish the good about your daughter as you practice that tough love with her, and in the meantime, find solace in your son's unconditional love. I think it's a fair assessment to say that every family has that one person who gives love freely, and every family has that one who cannot beyond his or her own needs/desires Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted October 30, 2005 Share Posted October 30, 2005 'Unconditional love' is about understanding that some kids take a long time to grow up and can deal out a lot of garbage during that time but you don't quit on them. Expecting to have something back from your kid is not what parenting is about. She may be of legal age (or maybe not where you are) but not everyone grows up equally fast. Parents are anathema to teens. That's a given. When she's older, she'll be different. Do not quit on her. Do not abandon or desert her. Realize that even at 18, she's still just a kid that has a way to go before you can expect maturity of her. Don't sulk and pout or get angry. Show her you're disappointed and leave it at that. Link to post Share on other sites
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