Girls, if a better guy comes along, youll pursue him regardless of your bf wont you?

[d'Arthez]

Anyway by nature, man and woman was never meant to be monogamists.

The monogamy debate is far from settled. You are assuming something here, that has not been proven conclusively.

 

Man was not meant to drive cars either - does that mean man should abstain from driving cars? And nature never intended for English to evolve. Does that mean we all should shut up?

[scratch]

Does that mean we all should shut up?

 

I beg of you, tell me this wasn't rhetorical.

[collegegirl83]

I don't feel that I would be that girl. A lot of my girlfriends are with guys I know they would dumb if another guy "better" or whatever you want to call it. I am always the single girl in my group friends not because I can't get a guy but because I am picky and know what I want. I have had conversations with my girlfriends about this topic and had a few even admit to me that they were with their boyfriend because they don't like to be alone. So in some since I feel that they would leave their current boyfriend if they thought they met in their eyes a "better" guy who would pursue them.

[lilmoma1973]

That's the most f?cked up thing I've read in a while. We're not talking about Tshirts here, we're talking about human beings with feelings. If you don't like the relationship you're in, either try to work it out or end it. Only THEN you're free to look for someone else.

 

I totally agree with you Glitter!! Why would someone do that if you are already with someone and risk hurting them and not even knowing if this other person with even pan out !!! I would never do that to anyone it is cold and heartless and very wrong!!!!

[EnigmaXOXO]

Although you may be in a relationship wiht someone else. You're probably just settling with him until something better comes along; true is it not? Or perhaps use the new guy too feed your ego..?

 

I want you to be honest, is this what (maybe including you too) most girls do?

 

Can't speak for "most" girls or most guys, for that matter. But I've never been one to "settle". For me, there's no such thing as "Mr. Right - For Now". When I'm with someone in a committed relationship, I have absolute tunnel vision (To a fault ). There is no one out there better than the one I'm with. As a matter of fact, on the only two occasions in my life when I've met someone worth devoting my life to, those men came before all others. Including family, friends … and at times, even myself. (Again, sometimes to a fault )

 

On the one occasion when I did leave, it was for myself and not for someone else. And the grieving/healing process of that took more than a year before I was ready to even entertain the idea of welcoming anyone else into my life that was more than just a friend. After almost two years of being on my own, and dating casually, I was still reluctant even upon meeting the WONDERFUL man (and best friend) that shares my life now.

 

Do I think there is anyone out there better than him? --- H*ll no! Not before, and most likely not ever after. And if there is, I hope I don't ever have to find out, because I'm planning on keeping the beautiful partner that I've already got.

 

And my stingy ayas ain't SHARING, either!

[Apex]

These posts are so tiresome because people won't step back and realize that someone's loyalty or integrity has nothing to do with their genitals. Women stick up for women, men stick up for men. It's a given.

 

"Men suck!"

"Women suck!"

Don't argue with women. You can ignore them but don't argue with them.

[SmoochieFace]

Don't argue with women. You can ignore them but don't argue with them.

 

 

Exactly. Men lose every time. I know from experience.

 

My X was a classic example of a woman who could never admit she was wrong about anything.

[Brokenheartedmom]

i don't think that is true.... if you are in love with the person you are with why are you looking elsewhere anyway