TiredOfWaiting Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 ExMM is playing mind games. He ended it with me BEFORE his D, claiming I was too intense etc (about 2 months ago, D was 1 month ago). To clarify, his W divorced him. He made zero decisions, this is all her doing. He didn't D her to be with me. Wanted his space, was confused, and all the other usual drivel. I respected his wishes and did the NC thing. He is still living at home with his exW, but admits he needs to get off his ass and make a plan. He keeps on breaking NC. Phones / emails and is friendly. Then phones / emails and is insulting (called me a slut and whore!). Is feeling very threatened because I have a male friend (and I mean FRIEND). Checks up on me, drives past my house. What the hell? He ends it, and then wants to make me feel guilty for having a life outside of him??!! My statements to him have been along the lines of "You have to ask for what you want in life. But you also have to work at it. I am tired of the games and manipulation. I am tired of the yoyo effect." What the hell DOES HE WANT? Anyone who could possibly tell me what is going on in his mind? I am afraid to assume anything as far as he is concerned. I also have this huge guilt and obligation thing about the divorce and being there for him, which he is very cleverly using to his advantage. One word: MANIPULATION. Link to post Share on other sites
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