Mary3 Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 What is this new trend ? Guys telling me straight out they dont want to bother with dinner and flowers and just want to have sex. Oh how convienant for them ! No effort, no romance, no candlelight dinners, no persuing til the moment is right. Just get in your pants and then go out the door. This seems to be more prevelant lately . Conversation goes something like this " Hey I am looking for a good time . Looking to Hook Up with you tonite" They think this is hassle free and no time spent getting to know one another. No bottle of wine , no dinner and a movie. They just want effortless sex and be gone. What happened to romancing the girl and then eventually going intimate ? I tell them no thanks , looking for more... Now of course its a little different than someone who develops in an FWB. At least they do some of those things mentioned above but they want the no committemt, endless sex environment. One nite stands suck ! ( I am not admitting nor denying to having one or two ). I just keep finding this more and more on these dating sites which I hardly take seriously anymore. Just a matter of conveinance for my busy schedule to check my profile and mail daily. I do rather prefer meeting someone outside of the internet sex blitz. I guess some guys might say : Problem solved. They found a new way to get hook-ups and get their sexual needs met... Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 Thank your lucky stars! Look at all the grief these guys used to create by pretending they wanted relationships just to get sex. Now you know right up front (no pun intended) that the guy's not into you and just wants to get his rocks off. How great could that be? Think of all the time you won't waste on jerks!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 What is this new trend ? Well Mary3 in the last issue of Cosmo (UK version) I read, another trend was identified. I think of this one as "Friends with mutual benefits." The premise is that a fair number of young women in the UK are turning to a "tame" form of prostitution in order to supplement their income/pay off credit card debts or just buy little luxuries that their monthly wage wouldn't otherwise stretch to. The "client" will generally be a male friend who is attracted to the young woman but doesn't want a relationship with her. Every "booty call" costs him a pre-agreed sum. Now I have no idea whether this really is a trend, or just the product of some junior journalist's mind during a brainstorming smoking break. I do, however, tend to think that it's a natural progression backwards to an age when women did at least get some sort of payback for the emotional investment they put into these situations. The level of respect extended to the paid "FWB" would probably be no less than that received by the unpaid FWB. In fact, in this business-like and somewhat unromantic age, the hard-headed and entreprenuerial spirit of the "will f*** for cash buddy" would probably win her significantly more respect from the sort of guy who will hustle gullible women into falling in with a plan that suits him (and generally primarily, if not only, him) to an absolute tee. Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 Blimey.... I ought to pick up a Cosmo every now and then...!! The things you read eh...!! Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 I don't know if it's a new trend or if it's something else. It could be that these guys are just tired of the little mind games that some women play, so instead of joining in some sort of dance of deception, they just cut right to the chase. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 I'm f@cking tired of guys that just want to get into my pants but I'm glad that there's less messing with my head and emotions and more cut to the chase now that I'm older. It's much easier to find out which ones are in it for just sex. Getting paid for sex no matter what spin you put on it is prostitution. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 You know what, I was just thinking about what I wrote and I changed my mind. I'm REALLY tired of men that mess with me emotionally more than men that just want sex. At least men that just want sex are honest. While it may not be what I want I can respect them more for their honesty. Let's just cut to the chase and stop playing games. Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 Mary 3 I noticed that you mentioned that you are noticing this trend more on dating sites. It is probably just a tactic similar to the guy walking down the street and asking every woman if they want to F*ck. They get 99 slaps in the face and maybe one out of a hundred will say yes. The internet makes this "slap in the face" approach much faster, less chance of getting arrested and is much better for your complexion. Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 Oh, and the matter of "tame" forms of prostitution mentioned. There is certainly nothing new about that....and not confined to women. A lot of young guys hustle money on the gay side of town too. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 At least men that just want sex are honest. While it may not be what I want I can respect them more for their honesty. Let's just cut to the chase and stop playing games. Now that's my kinda woman! Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 Well I didn't say it would work with me but it would certainly save me a lot of time and headaches....and I guess him too Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 Would these guys have better luck if they present you flowers while asking for only sex? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 What happened to romancing the girl and then eventually going intimate ?... This is something that the "womens movement" and feminism has brought upon women. Females cannot blame men for this. They wanted to be more like men and equal so now you have it. Birth control pills mean little chance of pregnancy which equals abundant casual sex. Womens financial independence means they don't need men for anything anymore except when they need a sperm donor. Many busy career women don't want to deal with a "relationship" anymore so they opt for the bootie calls and an occasional dinner once per month with their so-called "man". This is what women wanted so now they are getting it. Have fun! Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 Would these guys have better luck if they present you flowers while asking for only sex? No but if they brought their dog or cat along to ask they'd probably have better luck Link to post Share on other sites
scratch Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 No but if they brought their dog or cat along to ask they'd probably have better luck That's pretty freaky. I thought you were just into toys. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 You are a funny guy scratch. I said to ask, not into the bedroom. Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 That's pretty freaky. I thought you were just into toys. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 No but if they brought their dog or cat along to ask they'd probably have better luck Please take note of my cute dogs over there!!! Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted October 31, 2005 Share Posted October 31, 2005 You don't count Tudor, we already know they're your wife's dogs. Let's let some people respond to the OP on booty calls. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary3 Posted November 1, 2005 Author Share Posted November 1, 2005 Alpha Boo ! It seems as though guys will find a girl who will have straight sex and then its done. I see a tremendous amount of this now . With the FWB or f*** buddy , Man is having an easier time getting laid... But despite it all Alpha we still like to be romanced ....I know you probrobly don't believe in that ? You blame the womens movement. But isn't that what guys really wanted all along ( ? ) and now they don't have to go through the dating and marraige thing to get a piece ? Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 What happened to romancing the girl and then eventually going intimate ? You just haven't met a guy who wants a relationship, that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary3 Posted November 1, 2005 Author Share Posted November 1, 2005 Thanks Westernxer Very true...... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 You blame the womens movement. But isn't that what guys really wanted all along ( ? ) and now they don't have to go through the dating and marraige thing to get a piece ? It is what guys wanted.....but when women complains about it they should blame other women and the feminist movement, not men. Women give it up too easy and they compete with other women for men and they f*** married men. WOMEN CONTROL THE PUSSY, NOT MEN....that is why there are rape laws....If it were up to men we'd be able to have sex with any woman we wanted at any time we wanted... Link to post Share on other sites
garner Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 It is what guys wanted.....but when women complains about it they should blame other women and the feminist movement, not men. Women give it up too easy and they compete with other women for men and they f*** married men. WOMEN CONTROL THE PUSSY, NOT MEN....that is why there are rape laws....If it were up to men we'd be able to have sex with any woman we wanted at any time we wanted... There are rape laws because not all men think in the same way that you do. Some of them actually like and care about women. There are successful and happy marriages and relationships out there for the same reason. I don't blame feminism, for the things you're talking about. I blame the men and women who use feminism as a reason for warring with eachother rather seeing it as a movement that is designed to create a fairer society. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Some of them actually like and care about women. There Your being somewhat hard on Alpha here.. He has never said he didn't love women Link to post Share on other sites
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