On year later, still confused and perhaps time to pack up and go...

[dr strangelove]

I havent posted about my situation for a long time. I had some hopeful things happened and then things didnt go so well I find myself disillusioned by my whole life.

 

I dont know what I did to send me down a path so full of pain and lonelyness and bad luck. I tried to be hopeful, thanks to kodiak i tried the making a wish, as he said he made a wish everyday at 11:11. I made mine at 3:33 am and I heard from her at sometime around 5 am.

 

Now our last conversation, she has told me she met someone, in which case confuses me if this is so why talk with me? and then talk with me again?

 

One of the unfortunate things about this situation is she has items of mine. Ive been playing around with the idea of trying to figure out where she lives or works and show up with the cops to get my stuff. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about the scene this will cause. Ive even had a friend awhile ago tell her to give my stuff back and she refused.

I guess if we were still together it wouldnt matter or end up back together.

 

The problem is its not bad enough I am still depressed over breaking up with her, its the extra kick of having my stuff taken.

 

It great to say move on.. but I am not looking forward to another episode like this and the truth is I question womens motives now. Do they want me for sex or my stuff or..? I can see a long life alone. I just feel so lost, ive lost my taste for everything even running my shop. Its so easy for someone to say open again, find a new woman etc.. I really cant be bothered.

 

I remember when I used to believe in santa claus. I was even sure that I heard him banging around downstairs when I was a kid. Looking back now it was probably the dog running around. I used to be so hopeful about everything, now it seems like these are my last days. Just like a rockstar who put out a great album and could never top it.

 

I should have seen the warnings signs, but I was blinded by my emotions. I tried to leave many times, but she wouldnt let me go. Im writing this I feel like im going to be sick, I feel like im about to lose everything. I wish sometimes I had a drug or acohol problem, I could block out all my feelings.

 

Maybe this is the time to start?

[dr strangelove]

Upon reflection perhaps I can warn you men out there where I tripped up

 

1. first day i met her I ended up paying for her food she didnt offer to toss in cash when the bill came.. I saw this as a red light but i assumed I could probably have more chance of getting laid if I kept my mouth shut

 

2. I never made a spare set of keys for her place. I could have walzed in and took my stuff and some of hers for money she owed me.

 

3. being nice ..big mistake

 

4. Never showing up at her door with the cops to get my stuff.

well...maybe thats in the future if I can locate her

 

5. Not keeping more notes on things like parents, copies of her id etc.. damn I could have used this to track her own still I might be able to pay someone off at a place she rents videos to find out where she is and bingo get my stuff back or at least have an address to send a summons to court to

 

6. I should have broke up with her to be with one of the "better choices" that took an interest me while I was with her. Oh well based that decision on feelings.. should based it on looks and money.. and a car its great to have a female chaffeur

 

7. I should have been on the lease.. but I figured id get screwed later.. well leases are the easiest things to break.. should have realized that at the time

 

8. I should have never got involved with such an insecure fat cow. In fact the reality is, she hasnt really improved herself...

 

9. I should have kicked the door down that day she locked me out.. or came back later that day and had the landlord let me in..damn kudos mr nice guy.

 

10. I really should tell her that I have never wanted her back ever, Ive just been nice to get my stuff back.. I should tel her im engaged to.. um well I should send pictures of the russian girl I correspond with or .. maybe the young polish girl whos nuts for me..

 

11. Never get involved with a FAG HAG ..sorry gay guys out there, but they usually are more in love with you then us.

 

12. I should post a picture of her round the city with something nasty like .. ripped me off reward..... or has stds beware.. ya nice

[d'Arthez]

1. first day i met her I ended up paying for her food she didnt offer to toss in cash when the bill came.. I saw this as a red light but i assumed I could probably have more chance of getting laid if I kept my mouth shut

Lesson learned, unless of course her background makes it hard to fork out quite a bit of money (think unemployed, or in college without mom & dad paying for everything).

 

2. I never made a spare set of keys for her place. I could have walzed in and took my stuff and some of hers for money she owed me.

And you do not know where she lives? They key would not have made a difference then. Unless you are willing to try every house in the city. And the problem anyway is, that if you gave money willingly, it hard to prove that it was actually a loan or something like that. Lesson learnt: do not loan money to others, and if you do, put it on pen and paper.

 

3. being nice ..big mistake

From what you described above, that was not being nice. It was giving in to every whim of her, and believing it was "love."

 

4. Never showing up at her door with the cops to get my stuff.

well...maybe thats in the future if I can locate her

Why bother? If she is such a piece of art, as your description implicitly suggests, I would not even be surprised that the following word ascribes her next move: "Restraining Order."

 

5. Not keeping more notes on things like parents, copies of her id etc.. damn I could have used this to track her own still I might be able to pay someone off at a place she rents videos to find out where she is and bingo get my stuff back or at least have an address to send a summons to court to

You are not a PI in a relationship. Would you make notes whether or not she prefers doggy-style over girl on top? It is absolutely useless. Why the obsession with your stuff?

 

6. I should have broke up with her to be with one of the "better choices" that took an interest me while I was with her. Oh well based that decision on feelings.. should based it on looks and money.. and a car its great to have a female chaffeur

No, you should have reflected first if she was the right choice anyway. Then you would have broken up almost instantaneously, or a relationship would not even have formed. You have seen the red flags, but chose to ignore them.

 

7. I should have been on the lease.. but I figured id get screwed later.. well leases are the easiest things to break.. should have realized that at the time

This really confusing now. You don't know where she lives, but you were almost on the lease? Makes absolutely no sense.

 

8. I should have never got involved with such an insecure fat cow. In fact the reality is, she hasnt really improved herself...

Calling her a fat cow does not change anything. And the person who is responsible for getting involved with her, is you. You have seen the red flags, but chose to ignore them. You cannot blame her for your mistakes.

 

9. I should have kicked the door down that day she locked me out.. or came back later that day and had the landlord let me in..damn kudos mr nice guy.

What happened? I take it she has moved out there by now. I know absolutely nothing about the US lease system, but it seems logical that the landlord should know of her wherabouts - and provided he knew the two of you were an item, he might be able to do something.

 

10. I really should tell her that I have never wanted her back ever, Ive just been nice to get my stuff back.. I should tel her im engaged to.. um well I should send pictures of the russian girl I correspond with or .. maybe the young polish girl whos nuts for me..

And what would have given you that? From the way you described her to be, the only thing that could hurt her is if said Russian or Polish girl, walks up to her, and laugh in her face for her stupiditiy. Not that I would recommend such a thing, but you get the picture.

 

12. I should post a picture of her round the city with something nasty like .. ripped me off reward..... or has stds beware.. ya nice

If you do so, no doubt that you will be prosecuted and sentenced to do a few years. These are no simple offenses anymore - I would strongly recommend against doing that.

[pippen_2k]

I remember alot of your posts from the past DR, and yeah you were one of the few hopefulls that didnt believe in NC and thought sticking around would bring them back...... Its come back to bite you in the ass hasnt it?

 

It dosent matter, thats the only way you can learn in life, getting burnt... but dont make it a habbit, one time should be enough.

 

You will learn alot from this experience, especially in terms with dealing with your emotions and only judging people from their actions and not their words.

 

Your gonna feel like crap for a while and you are well aware theres no secret remedy to make you feel better. I know its hard but do try to concentrate on your business... You will feel terrible in the future if you let a girl who broke your heart ruin your business. Its gonna be some crappy times ahead but you will get through it... everyone else has and so will you..

 

Looks like you have accepted things now just move on

[dr strangelove]

14. Should have tried for a threesome

 

 

Look

 

When I was with this woman I wasnt so great..ok whatever

 

What did I do? Guess.. Im surprises I got away with as much as I did.. for such a long time.

 

Pippen fyi if I intend to do something Ive already checked out the legal issues behind it.

 

Trying to forget her seems to be working so far.

 

Did I think she would come back? ya sure she did once already.. FYI she is the one who contacts me..

 

I'll you one thing.. being stuck on your ex.. theres alot of women out there that feel sorry for you and take it as a challenge to make you forget her..

 

ah whatever..I did get her back once.. and it only took me one time out for an evening and a shag to get her back, then she was calling me her boyfriend again..

 

Ill think of something

but in the mean time I was thinking id like to try sleeping with my dyke friend for kicks.. and maybe another close friend.. ya baby

 

Trust me though.. I did things.. In fact I think i should give one of those things a call.. tee hee

[pippen_2k]

What?

 

I have no idea what your talking about sometimes.. lol

[dr strangelove]

hey pippen ever really piss off a croc while throwing shrimp on the barby? what ever happened to your sheila?

[suunto]

your not thinking straight, imo what's pi$$ing you off is that she dumped you, thats what you can't get over, you stood by her, you done what you could and she still dumped you, so you think, well instead of taking her ****, you should have dumped her earlier instead of sticking by her but now its too late and thats what putting you on a downer.

why would you want to be with a "fat cow" move on

[dr strangelove]

You know when I wrote this thread I did it hoping it would make me feel better.

I really dont wish to get into the complications of what happened.

[magda]

How about just forget about the stuff and just forget her?

[dr strangelove]

It really sucks to have to bring to this but....

 

Its $2000 or more of stuff

 

When you hook up with someone, and you ever have a chance, take down stuff like SIN number, birth certificate info, drivers license number (aha I have this )

anything.. just in case something happens... parents full name and numbers.

I'll track her down one day through a P.I. or my own methods.

 

I originally posted on here as a way of getting through the days till I heard from heard, heck every other time we broke up she eventually came back so i had no

reason to think this was different. I used to think she has my stuff to hold on to me.. I dont see that way anymore and I'll locate her and sue her for my stuff. It sucks but thats the way it goes..

 

ciao