sayray23 Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Hey everybody...I'm a little new to this forum posting thing...so be gentle Okay...so here is my problem. Me and my best friend went out this past weekend to celebrate her 21st birthday on Friday night. Well, in the process of our bar hopping, I met a really nice guy. We exchanged numbers at one bar, and I suggested he meet us at the next bar we were headed to, which he did. Well, after some dancing and drink buying, it was time to go home. After my friends ditched me outside the club, this guy offered to walk me home...keep in mind I had told him upfront that he was not getting laid. Needless to say, it did take us a little while to get home, as we stayed in the parking lot just making out. We got back to the hotel, he got a cab and I told him I'd call to make sure he got home okay, which I did. In that phone conversation, he told me he wanted to meet up the next night, so he would call me in the morning when he woke up. However, I just shrugged this off, thinking it was just another guy saying he'd call. But, he in fact did call me the next morning bright and early, but I missed the call I did try calling him back, but got no answer. Sadly, later that night I was drinking at a friends house and did the worst thing ever...drunk dialed his number a few times!! Did talk to him at one point, but his cell phone died. Okay..now that I have elaborated on that way too much lol....my problem is I don't know if I should call him back again. Me and my friends are going out Friday night and I wouldn't mind hanging out with him again...but I also dont want to seem like I'm coming on too strong if I do in fact call him again...ya know? So my question is...what do I do? Do I just leave it as it is and forget about it? Do I call him anyways? Do I wait? Sincerely, Sayray:D Link to post Share on other sites
glittergurl Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 I would forget about it; but well, I only focus on potentially serious long-term relationships, and I never wasted my time with the rest. But that's just me Meeting in a bar, making out in a parking lot that same night, calling him the next night while you're drunk ... you can bet this guy has zero respect for you now, and will probably never see you as potential wife material. If you don't want to waste your time with hook ups and short term relationships; forget about him. If you don't mind it not lasting, then go ahead. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sayray23 Posted November 1, 2005 Author Share Posted November 1, 2005 I'm only 22 years old...so right now at this point in my life, I am not out at the bars looking for my future husband....so I am not wondering about this guy for the purposes of a long term relationship whatsoever. I just dont want the other night to have been the only night we hang out. I understand he is not husband material...never thought about him in that way from the beginning. He is just a fun, sweet guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 I would give him a ring. The worst that could happen is he says he's busy or blows you off but you will know one way or the other. Link to post Share on other sites
Jayhawkgirl Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Try a text message. That way, if you're not quite sure what to say when he answers, you don't have to worry about it...but you can still say hi and let him know that you would be interested in hanging out again. If he texts back or calls you, great! If not, let it go. We've all made the embarrassing drunk dials...if he "lost all respect for you" because of that...you probably don't want to hang out with him again anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sayray23 Posted November 1, 2005 Author Share Posted November 1, 2005 The text is a great idea...thing is the number he gave me is his house number (yes it's real...cuz I already talked to him on it) He doesn't have a cell phone...weird I know. The night we met actually, I thought he had given me the wrong number on purpose...cuz he had given me a cell number and when I called it it wasn't his name on the voicemail. Turns out, he had given me his friend's cell phone number because he doesn't have one, but he was going to be with him that night, so it would have been the only way to get in touch with him that night. Later, at the lobby of the hotel, he gave me his house number as well. It's good to know I'm not alone in the drunk dialing business lol...just slightly embarrassing I have to admit. So if I can't text him...should I still call or no? lol Link to post Share on other sites
Jayhawkgirl Posted November 1, 2005 Share Posted November 1, 2005 Hmmmm...well that makes things a little more difficult, lol. I am such a wuss when it comes to things like this...especially after the drunk dial...but you'll never know if you don't try, right? I would call and hope for the voicemail (lol, told you I was a wuss!)...something quick and simple..."hi ___, this is ___, just calling to say hi and see if you'd like to hang out again sometime. Give me a call." But if you don't hear from him again, cut your losses and move on...I'm sure there are plenty of other bar hotties to hang out with Good luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
mini696 Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 Yeah call him or send a casual message (text). Not all men are scared off by the drunken dial. Well I'm not. Dont be too worrid what he thinks. You hardly know him and if he has a problem you dont have to see him again. Link to post Share on other sites
Cecelius Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 I'd wait a little and then call and ask him out (or to hang out). If he's got opinions of you based on the drunk hook up, then there's not much to lose anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 The guy is only reachable on a landline. I would call mid week (like today or tomorrow) during the day so he knows it is not a drunk dial. Say something simple like "Hey, I had a lot of fun talking to you last weekend, we are headed out again this Friday and if you want to meet me, give me a call"....and then leave your number--don't assume he has it or remembers it. That is non drunk, non forward, and lets him know that you are interested but there is no pressure this could be a friend thing or a make out thing or a go home and do the nasty thing. He needs to show up to figure out which it is! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sayray23 Posted November 3, 2005 Author Share Posted November 3, 2005 I called him...no answer....no machine! BUT my best friend who was with me that night hooked up with his friend....so she called him and he called her back...told her for us to call his cell phone when we go out Friday night so that he and this guy I met can meet up with us. Hopefully this works out Thanks for all the replies. By the way....do I even mention the drunk dial calls? Like apologize for them? Or just leave it alone? Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted November 3, 2005 Share Posted November 3, 2005 Leave it--you know you DDs and he knows you DDd why dwell on it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sayray23 Posted November 4, 2005 Author Share Posted November 4, 2005 Got it! Link to post Share on other sites
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