Sarah belle Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 So I’ve been talking to this guy off and on for awhile now. Recently we stoped talking. Then we made back up and we are on speaking terms. Anyways he went a whole week without communicating with me. Come to find out he sent me a message but “it said he deleted it”. So I asked him about it and he said he didn’t mean to send it to me? Later on he final confessed that it was for me. He asked me “you know why I didn’t contact you”? I replied “ why”? He said “it’s because I’m not going to sweat you and come off desperate”. I’m very confused? What is his motive ? Before the big fight that we got into about a month ago he was blowing up my phone there wasn’t a day he wouldn’t reach out. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 Are you dating? When people say they are "talking to" somebody I am always confused. From my perspective, if you are just talking on the phone or, worse yet, "text buddies," how can you have all this drama? Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 Not serious. Next! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarah belle Posted January 23, 2023 Author Share Posted January 23, 2023 He’s also been trying to meet me in person which I have declined due to all of the disagreements so that’s also probably why he doesn’t take it serious Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 Set yourself free then and stop wasting each other's time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarah belle Posted January 23, 2023 Author Share Posted January 23, 2023 19 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: Set yourself free then and stop wasting each other's time. So he doesn’t like me? Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 It's not serious. You two are BOTH playing a game via texts. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 6 hours ago, Sarah belle said: So he doesn’t like me? Not in the way you would like him to, no. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 8 hours ago, Sarah belle said: He’s also been trying to meet me in person which I have declined. Are you interested in dating? Texting is not dating, so if you are interested in someone, meet as soon as mutually convenient. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 9 hours ago, Sarah belle said: He’s also been trying to meet me in person which I have declined due to all of the disagreements If you already have disagreements and you have never even met, then this is not at all worth pursuing. Too much drama. Next. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 I don’t know why he would like you if you’ve had disagreements and never met. The more important question is why you would care at all whether he likes you when you have disagreed to the point of fighting and are avoiding meeting him in person. When someone makes you feel uncomfortable, you drop it and move on. I’d explore why this dynamic appeals to you. You may be attracted to very dysfunctional types of relationships where some attention feels like good attention but it’s really toxic waste you don’t need in your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 10 hours ago, Sarah belle said: So I’ve been talking to this guy off and on for awhile now. What is "a while"? It sounds like h 10 hours ago, Sarah belle said: He asked me “you know why I didn’t contact you”? I replied “ why”? He said “it’s because I’m not going to sweat you and come off desperate”. I’m very confused? What is his motive ? He meant, he's not going to chase you and appear needy for your attention. He's just saying anything he thinks you might want to hear. That message was probably for another girl and he just made that up. How can he appear desperate when he's never even asked you out on a date? A meet is not a date. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 12 hours ago, Sarah belle said: So he doesn’t like me? I think "let's meet" is very neutral. You could have explored more, asked him where, depending on his suggestion you'll be able to guess... If he didn't make it clear you could still go as a friend and if he tried something more and you're not into it you can always say no. I'd put this one in the bucket though. Arguing before meeting? No good. This implies that communication between you two does not flow easily or that you're just not an ideal fit. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarah belle Posted January 23, 2023 Author Share Posted January 23, 2023 57 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: I think "let's meet" is very neutral. You could have explored more, asked him where, depending on his suggestion you'll be able to guess... If he didn't make it clear you could still go as a friend and if he tried something more and you're not into it you can always say no. I'd put this one in the bucket though. Arguing before meeting? No good. This implies that communication between you two does not flow easily or that you're just not an ideal fit. That’s exactly why I haven’t met him because of the disagreements… he’s always asking me to hang out but I feel like there’s to much tension to meet. He also says he “loves me” and then he says he’s “just joking”? He also says he has dreams about me etc and only wants me. A lot of game talk I think. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 15 minutes ago, Sarah belle said: That’s exactly why I haven’t met him because of the disagreements… he’s always asking me to hang out but I feel like there’s to much tension to meet. He also says he “loves me” and then he says he’s “just joking”? He also says he has dreams about me etc and only wants me. A lot of game talk I think. What are the two of you arguing about, exactly? A man I dated said he had a dream that I killed him. Having fallen asleep, he woke up horrified (apparently I shot him in his dream, ). Of course, don't take those types of comments seriously. Next time just say "thank you, that's kind, but a bit too soon for that sort of thing." Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 51 minutes ago, Sarah belle said: I feel like there’s to much tension to meet. He also says he “loves me” and then he says he’s “just joking”? It may be better to block someone like this than allow this aggravation. He seems like a jerk. Refocus your energy on friends and dating men you're interested in and get along with. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 What are your arguments about? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 6, 2023 Share Posted February 6, 2023 You have these disagreements which are preventing you from wanting to see him....and why are you still talking to this guy??? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 7, 2023 Share Posted February 7, 2023 On 1/22/2023 at 9:53 PM, Sarah belle said: Before the big fight that we got into about a month ago he was blowing up my phone there wasn’t a day he wouldn’t reach out. Until we know this it's hard to try to answer your question. What was the fight about? Link to post Share on other sites
Kassieee Posted February 15, 2023 Share Posted February 15, 2023 (edited) On 1/23/2023 at 12:22 PM, Sarah belle said: That’s exactly why I haven’t met him because of the disagreements… he’s always asking me to hang out but I feel like there’s to much tension to meet. He also says he “loves me” and then he says he’s “just joking”? He also says he has dreams about me etc and only wants me. A lot of game talk I think. He is weird. He seems immature too. Edited February 15, 2023 by justaskingok Link to post Share on other sites
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