trying to sort out probs

[katheryn1]

my marriage i thought was a happy one untill this year certain things were making us argue from march to june including my friend /neighbour she was not only incouringing husband to confide in her then giving some advice to both of us my husband became obssesed with her and her input but i became more and more jelouse about how much time they were spending togeather and the amount of txt they were doing i know now some things she also stirred up to cause us to argu as we had a row he walked out but came back then 2 wks after he said he had enough left at the beging of june

 

within 2 wks they stated a relationship but this only lasted 51/2 wks in total i tried killing myself at one point i have been treted for depression after this relationship ended my husband finally worked out that he had thrown everything away this led to him trying to kill himself at the end of aug and me giving my support as far as i know he hasnt really spoken to her since but now we are back togeather he moved back about 3wks ago but we had beeen spending lots of time togeather,

 

now i never stopped loving my husband but he questioned wat he felt for me as now he dont tell me that he loves me he tells me hes got to like himself first he says he never stopped caring though and used to watch wat i was doing,

 

now i feel like he is watching her and i know he wants contact to get closure im not happy with this but said i would deal with it if i know about it and its not done behind my back because then we would be back to square one ,

i know she uses ppl and hopefully she doesnt decide to get involved again and it just goes away its hard living next door to her but im never going to forgive her . though i forgave my husband, as there were 3 ppl invoved in my marriage ,

 

my wedding aniversairy is comming in 14 days and we have been married 14yrs apart from this we have had been ok , i dont know wat to do about aniversery to celerbrate or treat as another day i thought of buying us a pr of necklaces that go togeather but not sure wat he will say got talk to him about this.

[katheryn1]

talked to the hubby he says just cards for this year but i think we have another problem he now stared getting a lot of txts again he says theyare from 2 work m8s but wont leave the phone lying around he even stared deleting msgs straight away i know that ppl alter ppls names so that other ppl dont know who they are txt as hes done this before and exff does this a lot i tried talking to him about how hes letting these txt rule his life ,

 

yesterday he had no talk time and went around moody most of the day i just got told these ppl are my friends but they are not they are work collegues they never contacted before while he was home so y now i could tell how much he used his phone but now hes gone back to work and i wont know if hes putting extra talktime on ,

 

im hopping im wrong but it the same patter before he would get moody if this ff would not txt him and get even ****ter . so while hes worried about money for talktime im worried a bout money for mortgage weres the sense in that

[katheryn]

husband home on the sick again because his depression took a turn for the worse one day at work , this is the day i told him to put exs name on phone and not use another name to pretend it wasnt her, this is part of the reason he took a turn for the worse , he didnt want me upset by him txting her ,

 

but i told him it upset me more hiding it from me, so he now has stopped txting her because he doesnt want us to go through that any more , she only txted him a couple of times ,

 

he sees a cpn as well as the doc and councillor hopefully this will help to sort out some of the problems that seem to be holding him back at the moment