ohkman1985 Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 Hi there i just had a few questions about my realtionship, and i was wondering, how to dela with the fact that im almost 21 and my girlfriend is 17. she is an awesome girl and i couldnt ask for anything else, but the fact that she and i see things differently interfears with our relationship. we have set plans to go to college together, and we have all these long term goals set for us but we tend to fight bcuz if its not her being immature its me. one problem is the fact that she takes every thing as a joke thtas what she does and her life is boiled around is jokes, how do i as a person help the situation, on how to understand her better? everything is so perfect the parents love us, and everything is in good shape except the fact of the age and maturaty and i love her so much i couldnt ask for anything else!! so how do i overcome her immaturaity?? Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 Oh, man, get away from her pronto. Not next week, not tomorrow, but today. Sure, she's probably cute and f*cks like a dæmon and all the rest, but a mismatch like this will suck the life right out of you. Been there, done that, still have the scars. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 "How do I overcome her immaturity?" Maybe date someone closer to your age. I know 17 is not too far from 21 but a few years can sometimes make a big difference. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
justagirl1121 Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 why would u say get away from her? that's pretty harsh!!! one man's (or woman's) experiences do not set future similar experiences in stone, nor would you be the person u are if not for those "scars". at 17 you're bound to have a certain level of immaturity. From my experience at 23, when u go to college guys tend to have a huge growth spurt in maturity, which typically disappears as college life turns them back as immature, if not more, than before college. you say you can be immature too.So, it's not as if you two are at extreme opposites on that problem. What is it that you fight about exactly, since you seem to have similar goals as of now. and what have you been doing since u graduated highschool, if you are both planning on going to the same college? Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 why would u say get away from her? that's pretty harsh!!! I'm a big fan of reality. So yes, if it sounds harsh it's because I've been there. Does that mean that, in every circumstance, the outcome will be the same? No, of course not. But if I can help this young man avoid potentially years of agony, then maybe the advice is worthwhile. Regardless, it's obviously ohkman1985's decision to make. He asked for input. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts