barfool Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 I met a really awesome guy, went out on a few dates, hung out a few times, everything going better than could be expected. Then I find out that after our 2nd date a girl that he had been pursuing before me had admitted that she had a crush on him all along. So now he is dating her and he and I are "just friends." Part of my downgrade in status is because he and she are looking for LTR where I had said I was not really looking for anything too serious. The question is should I try just being friends with him, stop talking to him or try to win him back? We have both admitted that it will be hard just being friends because we like each other a lot. We get along so fantastically well that it would be a shame not to have him as at least a friend. But I really want to be spared any further heart-ache. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 You don't want to be friends with him so there's no point in trying. And why would you want to win someone back who has already made you a consolation prize? Link to post Share on other sites
Moai Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 Bad idea. Move on, it'll only get worse and it'll drain you no end. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 The question is should I try just being friends with him,. No........... Link to post Share on other sites
Author barfool Posted November 3, 2005 Author Share Posted November 3, 2005 Yeah, I thought "no" would be the answer. It just hurts. But I guess it would hurt more hanging around as a friend. I got the same advice from my psychiatrist. I guess you guys really know what you are talking about. I really didn't want to but I told him last night that at least for now I can't be his friend. He seemed pretty upset and hopes that I will feel better and be able to contact him in the future. Painful... Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted November 3, 2005 Share Posted November 3, 2005 It's always hard to lose someone you care about, BF. No matter how much you would like to keep him in your life in the end you will be the one who gets hurt. He doesn't care enough about you to want a relationship and you will resent him for that. Then your anger will end the relationship for the both of you. End it now before you get to that point. Link to post Share on other sites
elijahBailey Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 institute 'no contact' with him until the feelings go away. And, btw, in most cases, it does go away. Link to post Share on other sites
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