Thug_Poet Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 I've been dating this girl for 5 months and we havent had sex yet. she is old fashion and a virgin(so she says) How can I get laid? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tangerina Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 1. Asker her if she wants to do it. 2. Listen to her response and take according action... i.e. if she says she wants to do it then grab some condoms and do it... if she says she wants to wait then either wait for her or dump her and get a new girl who puts out. 4. If you try to pressure her or guilt her into doing it or cheat on her because she won't do it then you could seriously f*** up her emotions, I am way serious, don't do that.... Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 I've been dating this girl for 5 months and we havent had sex yet. she is old fashion and a virgin(so she says) How can I get laid? Please don't pressure her into doing something she may not be ready for!!! Let her be ready when she is ready !! Link to post Share on other sites
glittergurl Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 How can I get laid? Show your girl some respect, man! If you don't wanna wait until she's ready, then break up and go find a slut somewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
elijahBailey Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I've been dating this girl for 5 months and we havent had sex yet. she is old fashion and a virgin(so she says) How can I get laid? If all you're thinking is gettin' some, I think you'll do better breakin' off with her. This girl sounds decent. Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 If all you're thinking is gettin' some, I think you'll do better breakin' off with her. This girl sounds decent. Totally agree with you elijah!! She deserves to be treated better !! Most guys love to (pardon the pun) "pop the cherry of a virgin" Alot of times once they get it they aren't a challenge and start treating the girl wrong cause they got into her pants!! Be patient if you love her you will wait and when she is ready it will be worth it!! Link to post Share on other sites
wx3 Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 If you cared about her at all, you wouldn't put so much importance on the sexual aspects of your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
SMHappyface Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 What is your goal in this relationship - to get laid or to have a meaningful relationship with this young lady? Another good question to ask is how old are you two? It's not uncommon for ladies in their teens to be virgins, and the last thing you need to do is make her feel like a freak about it. If her virginity is not a choice but a circumstance, you will need to be very patience and walk her through everything. She will need time to trust herself and you as well. Sex is a very big thing for most girls. If she is doing this for religious or personal reasons, lay off of it. She will withdraw if you try to pressure her. I had a boyfriend who was complaining and pressuring and ultimately cheated on me about my "lack of" and he got dumped and never did get ANYTHING. Also, you need to ask yourself what the F**k are you doing if you do not have a good reason - many girls WANT to be laid if that is your goal, and there is no reason for you screwing with an innocent girl's heart. Link to post Share on other sites
kgal Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 Are you serious? This is the most self centered post I have ever read here!! Marry her and she will sleep with you. Hmm.. but are you marriage material..?? You don't sound like it to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thug_Poet Posted November 8, 2005 Author Share Posted November 8, 2005 What is your goal in this relationship - to get laid or to have a meaningful relationship with this young lady? Another good question to ask is how old are you two? It's not uncommon for ladies in their teens to be virgins, and the last thing you need to do is make her feel like a freak about it. If her virginity is not a choice but a circumstance, you will need to be very patience and walk her through everything. She will need time to trust herself and you as well. Sex is a very big thing for most girls. If she is doing this for religious or personal reasons, lay off of it. She will withdraw if you try to pressure her. I had a boyfriend who was complaining and pressuring and ultimately cheated on me about my "lack of" and he got dumped and never did get ANYTHING. Also, you need to ask yourself what the F**k are you doing if you do not have a good reason - many girls WANT to be laid if that is your goal, and there is no reason for you screwing with an innocent girl's heart. Out of all the quotes this is the most useful one.....I'm not trying to pressure her but I wanted to know how to seduce her. I dont want to hit and quit it..I really like this girl and I want her to enjoy herself as well....But I dont think its fair for her to make me wait without a valid reason...She is 21 and I'm 25 so its weird to see a girl that is this old and puts too much emphasis on virginity...i dont mind waiting but I hate the fact that she wants to fool around but is not willing to go all the way. I rather she either has sex with me or doesnt bother with the makeout sessions....Its not fair to tease a guy esp. a guy who is faithful and does alot for her....I think I will just turn the tables around and not show any affection whatso ever.....Women shouldnt have complete control in the bedroom....I thought we are living in the day and age of equality..How are we equal when she has control in that department????? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thug_Poet Posted November 8, 2005 Author Share Posted November 8, 2005 Are you serious? This is the most self centered post I have ever read here!! Marry her and she will sleep with you. Hmm.. but are you marriage material..?? You don't sound like it to me. you are a very judgemental person..you dont know if I'm marriage material or not..you dont know me...Yeah this is self centered b/c I'm asking for advice...you sound like you are taking this personally...R u bitter about something? You must be a chick Link to post Share on other sites
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 It doesn't sound like you deserve a moralistic and chaste girl. Go find some dirty slut. Link to post Share on other sites
Sloppy Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 I know a girl who is 29 and a virgin. She is not religious. I think her reason is that she won't give it up to just someone. She respects her future long term bf enough to save her self for him, and she expects the bf to respect her as well. I guess you won't know unless you ask her. You have waited for a long time so I don't think you just wanna use her, even though you sound like you just like the challenge and might dump her right after. Link to post Share on other sites
downcydeguy Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 Are you serious? You're 25? I assumed you were 16 by your post! This woman should have the right to give up her virginity when she's ready. When it feels right. If she believed that you truly loved her, she would have already given it up. By reading your words, you're looking for high-fives from your friends because of your achievement. You need to let her go so she can find a guy who can show her the love she deserves. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thug_Poet Posted November 9, 2005 Author Share Posted November 9, 2005 Are you serious? You're 25? I assumed you were 16 by your post! This woman should have the right to give up her virginity when she's ready. When it feels right. If she believed that you truly loved her, she would have already given it up. By reading your words, you're looking for high-fives from your friends because of your achievement. You need to let her go so she can find a guy who can show her the love she deserves. I'm looking for constructive advice here. I dont need some sap giving me lines from some hollywood derived chick movie. What am asking for is fair. Sex is an important part of a relationship. I guess I made my original post sound blunt but if I'm curt its b/c time is of the essences. So pretty please give me good advice(Yeah I know i ripped that off from Pulp Fiction)..Seriously though, her being a virgin affects my sex life b/c in essence she is forcing me to become sexual abstinent....Oh by the way I'm not in this to get "high-fives" The fact that you are quick to make snap judgements shows your immaturity in understanding people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thug_Poet Posted November 9, 2005 Author Share Posted November 9, 2005 I know a girl who is 29 and a virgin. She is not religious. I think her reason is that she won't give it up to just someone. She respects her future long term bf enough to save her self for him, and she expects the bf to respect her as well. I guess you won't know unless you ask her. You have waited for a long time so I don't think you just wanna use her, even though you sound like you just like the challenge and might dump her right after. What makes you think I want to dump her after I have sex with her? Before that last comment you said things that make sense. So to anyone else that assumes I'm trying to be some hot shot frat boy that wants "to shag" every girl out there, you are sadly mistaken...Believe me there r plenty of slutty girls but thats not my goal w/ my g/f. I dont want to be with a slut Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 She only wants sex when she feels ready. And if she is a traditional woman, who does not believe in pre-marital sex, you know what you have to do. Marry her. Seriously though, her being a virgin affects my sex life b/c in essence she is forcing me to become sexual abstinent There is no way to trick anyone in consensual sex. Unless you are willing to force her into sex - which is exactly what she is avoiding, as it is against her beliefs. So abstinence it is - or breaking up, and finding another girl, who shares your beliefs about sex and sexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 Seriously though, her being a virgin affects my sex life b/c in essence she is forcing me to become sexual abstinent... nobody is forcing you to do or rather not do anything. either you choose to be with her and respect her decisions or choose not to be with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Panhandler Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 Just give her my number and I'll take her off your hands, perhaps hehehe. I generally go for the innoccent type and my favorites are virgins. But it is a little irritating when the girl is a prude virgin. I like the virgin type that is willing to get a little hot with me, not saying I want to straight out bang her and leave her, and commit her to a life to sin. I just expect some affection, if she's not giving me a substantial amount she's old news, because I don't like the cold virgin type. I like the yeah I'm a virgin but there's lots of other ways to get it on without banging. After having sex with virgins I generally feel as though I have corrupted them, and they are now just looking to expand their sex life with other guys, and I can't trust that they haven't been having sex with others some innoccence is gone. But they always will do me again, even if they have another guy. But I'm having this same problem with the current lot of girls I am seeing that they are prudes cause I'm not commited enuff. I wouldn't say they are virgins but they are the innoccent type I go for, and they aren't playing me but more and more it feels like they push me away like a friend. Or others get mad when we have more of a friendship only that are looking for sex, other girls that have hinted they want me. So it's a complexe issue, but I'm satisfied with it to a certain degree, which reminds it's time to go see my girl damn..almost late. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 so you think they are prudes because they dont want to have sex with you? maybe they are just choosy. Link to post Share on other sites
Panhandler Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 No, you just wouldn't understand, if they can find better good luck. It doesn't get any better than this...I have a problem finding girls I'm even mildly attracted too. The girls around here are poor and homely looking, and the girls in the other state I frequent are more big boned and snobs which I am not attracted too. Ehh...I'm hard to please, what can I say but it takes a lot to make me happy. I met two new pretty girls today, and they both really seemed interested, and were flirty and social. I seen another girl today and she was clinging to some dork, and I sort of wanted to approach her, but her talking to this string bean dork sorta turned me off. I figure eventually that I will have more intimate experiences with them if things continue to work out. But I am sick of them a lot sometimes, because these two girls both want a lot of commitment and I hardly even spend any time with them. Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 I know several 20/21 yr old girls that are virgins. They're not necc. waiting for marriage, just till they find someone they deem worthy of giving that part of themselves to. There's no magic word you can say or gesture you can do to get her to want to have sex with you. I know you're starting to feel a little "backed up" but it's her decision. And in reference to something you said earlier, she has every right to make that decision in her own time because: it's her body. Honestly, if she's anything like my friends, she probably is "ready" (at 21 a girl does have needs you know ). But is just waiting for the right guy--whoever that may be according to her standards. If you genuinely do care about her and see this relationship as having long-term potential, your desire to be "that guy" should stem from your desire to be with her, not just your want to get in her. If you feel that this woman is worth it, drop all the sex talk and just enjoy the time you spend together. Things will progress at their own pace. Sexual Rule of thumb: If you have to ask for it, you already know the answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thug_Poet Posted November 11, 2005 Author Share Posted November 11, 2005 I know several 20/21 yr old girls that are virgins. They're not necc. waiting for marriage, just till they find someone they deem worthy of giving that part of themselves to. There's no magic word you can say or gesture you can do to get her to want to have sex with you. I know you're starting to feel a little "backed up" but it's her decision. And in reference to something you said earlier, she has every right to make that decision in her own time because: it's her body. Honestly, if she's anything like my friends, she probably is "ready" (at 21 a girl does have needs you know ). But is just waiting for the right guy--whoever that may be according to her standards. If you genuinely do care about her and see this relationship as having long-term potential, your desire to be "that guy" should stem from your desire to be with her, not just your want to get in her. If you feel that this woman is worth it, drop all the sex talk and just enjoy the time you spend together. Things will progress at their own pace. Sexual Rule of thumb: If you have to ask for it, you already know the answer. I think I like your advice the most. Damn you should have your own talk show.... Link to post Share on other sites
QueenieJD Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 I would first of all like to say that I was in the same position except the other way around not too long ago! I was the virgin g/f. I dated my boyfriend for 8 months before I had sex with him. Talk to her about it...If shes not ready, shes not ready! And if you don't love her enough then move on because your both just wasting your time anyways. My boyfriend talked to me about it, about 7 months into our relationship and I said that I felt ready then, but he said we were going to wait for the perfect time..Which came about a month later and it was a great!! I really value and appreciate the way he treated me through the whole thing and wasn't pushy nor annoyed by it. Now, sex is a regular thing in our relationship and we've been together for a year and a half. If you really care for her, you need to make sure you wait for her and don't pressure the issue! Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
roxyg Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 To Panhandler, nice thread jack, not many are interested in what type of women you dating or were dating. To the orginal poster: Like many people said you just have to wait for her. Talk to her about how you don't like being turned on, and then pushed away. Let the communication be open and honest, not judgemental. The best way to approach these conversations is with an open mind, not a pointing finger. She will like, I think, the way you approach her with respect, and perhaps she will be more apt to understanding your frustrations and feelings as well. She may also be a virgin because she is having issues with whether or not she likes men or women. A college friend of mine went through that. She was not totally sure, and she didn't want to talk to her boyfriend about it. She did stuff with her b/f, but wouldn't have sex with him. In the end, she decided she enjoyed women more, and now has a girlfriend, with whom she lost her virginity to so to speak. Link to post Share on other sites
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