Mydish1 Posted November 3, 2005 Share Posted November 3, 2005 Does it mean their Interest level isnt high enough and so theyre using this line to make excuses? Or just something else to make them feel important so guys will chase them (like hard to get?) Im confused really. just yesterday i was able to get this classmates number.. i said, howd you like to get together sometime this week, what's your #? she gave it to me, but at the same time she said she's busy this week. i honestly believe that if a girl is interested enough she wouldnt use this line, and would make the time to get together. and if she wasnt interested enough she would use this. Soimeone tell me im wrong here... Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted November 3, 2005 Share Posted November 3, 2005 Wait to next week then call her. If she tells you she is busy again then just throw her number away. It is not a good sign that she told you right up front that she was busy but give it the benefit of the doubt. Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted November 3, 2005 Share Posted November 3, 2005 It could be either of those (low interest level or playing hard to get). But more often than not, it's just like with guys. Women get busy. It takes time for a person to open their lives/schedules to another person. If a girl blows you off repeatedly with no apparent reason, then she may really be one of the above. But I'd give it a few weeks and then walk away knowing you've given her the benefit of the doubt. I have a male friend who blows a lot of potential relationships because he thinks that way. "If she really liked me she'd find the time to meet me right now." Sound a little selfish and controlling? Don't be that guy. Guys, you do this all of the time yourselves. Get a grip. Women don't drop their lives any quicker than you do. Just relax and be patient and if you're still not getting any air time, move on. Don't drop the ball just because she said she was busy for a week. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted November 3, 2005 Author Share Posted November 3, 2005 Thanks for the reponses! i will give it the benefit of the doubt I have 2 classes with her on mond & tues. Perhaps i should invite her to lunch with me and my friend after class instead. she's probably 4/5 years older than me ack. Link to post Share on other sites
mini696 Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 It can also be a test to see if you are clingy. She says she is busy, but if you still call her during that time she'll know you dont respect her space. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 "Perhaps i should invite her to lunch with me and my friend after class instead. she's probably 4/5 years older than me ack." I'd advise against it. That might put you into friend realm. Also, maybe she doesn't like your friends or would feel more comfortable just with you. Ask her out 3-4 days in advance with a plan for what to do. Some girls (like myself) just don't like last minute plans. I think she was just saying she was busy becuase she was. I agree with that other poster that it is really annoying that some guys will only give you once chance like "Drop everything and go out with me in five minutes, or I'll never ask you again!" Give her a chance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted November 7, 2005 Author Share Posted November 7, 2005 well anyway, i forgot to mention it was probably my fault she said that. Since that day my tone of voice did come off a little desperate cause i was nervous. But i quickly pulled myself together after realizing what had happened. the part where she said she was busy i responded with, "oh that's fine i got work piled up anyway." so i patted her on the shoulders and said bye. Well anyway ill be seeing her tomorrow and tues. I would love to attempt to ask again this week but my weekend's going to be slammed with hw and a paper Hope she doesnt mind i hold off for this week Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 Busy = She is not interested Busy = She did not want to hurt your feelings Busy = She really is busy but busy week after week...hrmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
Panhandler Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 Busy means that feels stressed out by your proposition, but doesn't want to shut you out, or lack the attention. She's basically setting you up to feed her ego, if you keep pawing at her, then she's going to use you as an ego tool and belittle you more. Busy is a lame excuse, you don't just leave people hanging on those cold words. When I talk to someone that likes me, they don't say oh you know what I'm busy right now that's it. They say, I'm busy, and show sincerity, like I have to do this and I have to do that, there's no way I can squeeze in fun time. Basically she's blowing you off but feeding off your attention for her ego. Girls are sick like that, cause they like relationships in a less mature fashion, but are more moody and just like the thrill of a catch onto their bandwagon. You have to seduce girls, if you plan on our relationships like freindships they go nowhere. If a girl and me are together and she likes me and I like her, then the intimacy should continue to climax. It's okay to get to know a girl and be friendly in the getting to know eachother stages, but that should be laced with intimacy as well showing that there's a bond. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 I agree Panhandler. Women like to be seduced by the right man. If she gives you the busy thing she really doesn't have a high interest level. If she was interested but busy she would tell you a time when she isn't busy. Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 I agree Panhandler. Women like to be seduced by the right man. If she gives you the busy thing she really doesn't have a high interest level. If she was interested but busy she would tell you a time when she isn't busy. exactly... if a girl like my ex came up you'd say i quit my job and have all the time for you instead... busy? here... f... away off! Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 i wouldn't 'chat' a girl up as such anytime i had any meaning girlfriend i was just myself... it required no 'effort' it just worked and that was that all that chat-up crap... makes me sick as well as the guys who do it! Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 I agree Panhandler. Women like to be seduced by the right man. If she gives you the busy thing she really doesn't have a high interest level. If she was interested but busy she would tell you a time when she isn't busy. when women are doing that they aren't even worth pursuing, you know when a girl is into you and you to them and thats that.... no games , no jealousy crap going on, i learnt that with age! if they are playing stupid games then you know to walk away... BIG TIME! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 Busy means :" You are not important enough for me to make time for." ..... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 Busy means she isn't interested in dating you - But is willing to maybe be a friend. It's the nice way of letting someone know that they're not into you. Sorry... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted November 10, 2005 Author Share Posted November 10, 2005 panhandler thanks for the thorough reply. It's pretty clear that if someone doesnt make a counter-offer (of another time/day), then they arent interested. Well anyway it's pretty obvious she isnt interested (or not anymore), and it's been apparent this week. But the weeks before this, she appeared to be. The thing is she's the type that sends mixed signals. Since she is that type, i somehow end up doing the same either way. Im not going to be pawwing at any girl that does this, nor am i interested in throwing my self-respect on the line. But i have to admit, the increased tension between us is fun sometimes. At the beginning it's fun and all, but after awhile it just gets pointless... Maybe she was interested in me before i asked her out and i screwed it up, or as you said she's just seeking attention to feed the ego. But regardless im over her and now i dont even see what i saw in her in the first place. thanks for the replies from teh women who shared their insightful input on this also. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted November 11, 2005 Author Share Posted November 11, 2005 My friend has her in 2 of his classes and believes she's very shy. He sees that we both are, and i cant completely disagree with him there. after talking to my buddies, i decided to give her one more chance. Although signals of interest are not particularly apparent, i will attempt it. Link to post Share on other sites
yngv Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Good man. Better to know for sure than wonder if you guessed right. Personally it sounds like the two signals (got the #, but go the "I'm busy") cancel, so try again. Link to post Share on other sites
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