Thank You Toni!

[marzipan75]

Thank you so much for responding. I know you are right, and it's only been a week. I needed to hear that. I am trying to be kinder to myself but like you said it takes time. I have been out and have had fun. The other part of this problem is our mutual friends. I want to maintain contact with them however right now it hurts too much and I wind up feeling like I am trying to "cypher" information about him out of them. I do miss him and your previous advice was right on the nose. I just don't trust myself right now and the worst thing I could do is call him. Its over and the sooner I start realizing that the better. I know its only been a week but I am starting to get angry and that's something I didn't want to be. My friends keep telling me that's good but I don't want to be angry. This relationship lasted 8 years (somehow) and although it was incredibly painful, our part has been amicable. I seem to be okay for a little while and I do stop thinking about him and then it's like all of a sudden, boom, I start feeling a bit depressed. Talking about it helps a lot. Afterwards I usually feel a lot better. I just get the feeling that my friends (and they have all been great)must be so tired of hearing this stuff out of me and it's only been a week. So thanks for talking to me about this, I really appreciate it. I'm sure also I'll have more moments of insanity as the time passes. Anyway, Thanks!

[Tony T]

First of all, my name is Tony with a Y. Toni with an I is reserved for female Toni's.

 

It's great that you are getting angry. Don't fight that feeling. That is a very important and one of the final stages of grief. You may go through it for a while but getting angry is very promising and an important part of what you are going through. Get mad as hell...that's terrific.

 

Thank you for your kind note of appreciation. I am very sorry you're having to go through this but it happens to us all. One great thing, we always lose 10 or 15 pounds when we are depressed in this kind of situation and most of us need that. But please be sure to eat right in any case.