Mandi Posted July 2, 2001 Share Posted July 2, 2001 I've had strong feelings about one of my guy friends for about a year now, and we just got back from a trip to Europe that we took together. While we were there, he was very flirty and we had a blast. Now we're back in the States and things have cooled off. We still hang out a lot, but I think that the trip just made things even more awkward. I told him how I felt when we were having dinner in the Eiffel Tower, and he still hasn't said anything back except that he does have feelings for me as well that went beyond friendship. So why hasn't he asked me out? I keep dropping hints, but he just blushes, and changes the subject. He's never been in a relationship before, at least as far as I know, and and we just graduated from high school. He is staying in state, and I am going out of state. Should I just give up and try to move on? I don't think that'd be possible, because I think that I am in love with him, but I don't want to waste my time trying to a develop a relationship with him if he doesn't want that. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 2, 2001 Share Posted July 2, 2001 Going from friendship to relationship is a difficult and awkward transition, especially for a guy who has never been in a relationship before. I think you ought to ask him out to get things jump started. He may also be looking at the long term, where in less than two months you will be going out of state and meeting lots of new guys. He may just be way too smart to put himself in the position of having his heart broken. I think there is a way the two of you can go out and have fund for the next six or seven weeks before you go your separate ways. But to avoid emotional hurt, it really can't be too serious. It would be next to impossible to take a relationship of that short duration and make it a successful long distance relationship...they're hard enough under the best of circumstances. Talk to him, lay all the cards on the table, ask him out and let him know you would just like to spend some quality time together before the two of you part. By all means do whatever you can to preserve the nice friendship you have enjoyed together. Link to post Share on other sites
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