BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 has anyone read all those articles about not contacting your dumper for a month and then casually inviting them out and pretending that we are seeing others? i don't believe in all that crap, thats game playing if it isn't crap then has it ever worked for anyone here? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 i don't believe in all that crap, thats game playing if one does not play the "game" then they will always be the dumpee... Link to post Share on other sites
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 4, 2005 Author Share Posted November 4, 2005 thats interesting alpha, i've always been the dumpee my recent ex girlfriend and I told each other from the start that their would be no game playing and I still don't believe she did play games Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 thats interesting alpha, i've always been the dumpee and I've been the dumper the majority of the time. Its much more fun my recent ex girlfriend and I told each other from the start that their would be no game playing and I still don't believe she did play games females are very adept at game playing from the time they leave the womb...don't believe 90% of what women say. watch what they do instead. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 4, 2005 Author Share Posted November 4, 2005 females are very adept at game playing from the time they leave the womb...don't believe 90% of what women say. watch what they do instead. i did indeed alpha and she didn't play games, if that at all happened it would have been me despite me saying to her that i wouldn't play games... i didn't answer the phone quite a few times and that worried her but that was after her being out all night, she didn't answer her phone a few times but thats because she says she was drunk, which is understandable as i'd be the same! Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 The point of no contact is to allow yourself time to regenerate your life and to heal without the presence of your ex. Keeping them in your life will only make it harder for you to move on. There are people who have used it to play a game and try to win their ex back but they have missed the point of it. You're still in the early stages of grieving. Give yourself some time without her to recover. You want to be happy again, even if it is without her. It's hard to swallow the fact that she will not be in your life anymore so early on in the process. You need the time away from her to come to terms with that. Do it for yourself, not to try to win her back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 9, 2005 Author Share Posted November 9, 2005 The point of no contact is to allow yourself time to regenerate your life and to heal without the presence of your ex. Keeping them in your life will only make it harder for you to move on. There are people who have used it to play a game and try to win their ex back but they have missed the point of it. You're still in the early stages of grieving. Give yourself some time without her to recover. You want to be happy again, even if it is without her. It's hard to swallow the fact that she will not be in your life anymore so early on in the process. You need the time away from her to come to terms with that. Do it for yourself, not to try to win her back. true indeed very true, i only know of a few reallife circumstances where that did work out, the guy ignoring the girl while dating others, she pursued him crying etc. etc. no sorry i know of an ex friend who pursued an ex for 2 years too... anyway... there are many of my friends who say that I shouldn't dissappear of the scene totally... be aloof yet civil they say to text or call her for a drink in a while , if she says yes meet me in the music bar where I play with everyone else I might just reply right I might get down there sometime ( don't know whether i'd ever turnup ), just that sometime I might go down there, plus as well its a bloody shame i can't go there and the other bars although i know she'll probably not have the same look in her beautiful eyes like she used too i'm not even sure she'd be jealous at all if I was with another girl although i'd say she would a wee bit I don't want to wreck my head forever and it would be good to move on but at the same time i don't want to either although after what has happened I think i'd need a miracle... that unless someday she dates a d***head and then thinks back to me and i'd still sometimes be around and rekindles the flame sometimes old flames do get back... like once in 100,000,000 i know i certainly wouldn't go back to mine, the one i might have once considered was from 6 years ago but she can't have kids so thats no good Link to post Share on other sites
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