wilbanter98 Posted January 29, 2023 Share Posted January 29, 2023 So a few months ago this woman became my friend on social media, she contacted me first, she is very attractive a total knockout and smart and has her own business. She started liking my posts and commenting positive on stories etc. She would say we had alot in common and loved all things I was doing.Then she said we should work together on a project and I said yeah sure. Then it turned into oh we should hang out, she would text me alot and we talked alot on the phone and she kept saying how she loved what I did and wanted to do things.We talked so much about things we liked and she said we have similar outlooks and experiences. So we meet up and she is very nice and hugs me We have nice lunch and she asked did I have a girlfriend or married which I was single I said. She invited me over to her nice house and we talked alot and she was very excited to see me. She gave me some very nice tight hugs and it was so nice. She doesn't post alot and I don't think she has a boyfriend but not sure. I don't think she does as she don't mention one. She was very touchy with me trying to touch me several times and gave me nice hug when I left. We have been out a few times and nothing has happened yet.She was a bit nervous I think when we were together she was playing with her hair alot and she was leaning towards me when talking. I think she knows I like her but I don't know how she feels about me. She has a very busy work schedule. She has taken interests in my hobbies and interests and when I have been out with other women just friends she has reacted to my posts saying have fun etc. I live a good fun life and have some nice female friends, but I like this woman alot. If I post a storyor photo online she always comes online right away and comments nice things with hearts on my story? I find that a bit weird like she has notifications on when I post something. We have had some sexy talk a few times and talked about romantic places to go etc. I have not seen her in awhile as she has just moved her business and well yeah busy. She has said that I need to come again to her place and sounds great when I asked to meet up. Im a bit worried about rejection as I really like her alot. She came on very strong and now wants me to chase it seems. Am I missing the boat? I think I have fallen for her she is just gorgeous but a nice person in every way, not sure if she just wants something short and sweet or more. I don't know if its the chase game but maybe Im falling short there. She does reply back quickly but I don't know how she really feels about me, maybe Im blind. Im thinking I should just ask her out again and take her to a romantic place and see what happens. Any insight would be helpful. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 29, 2023 Share Posted January 29, 2023 15 minutes ago, wilbanter98 said: So a few months ago this woman became my friend on social media, she contacted me first, she is very attractive a total knockout and smart and has her own business. She started liking my posts and commenting positive on stories etc. She would say we had alot in common and loved all things I was doing.Then she said we should work together on a project and I said yeah sure. She asked you to work with her on what kind of project? Does it have anything to do with her business in any way? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilbanter98 Posted January 29, 2023 Author Share Posted January 29, 2023 4 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: She asked you to work with her on what kind of project? Does it have anything to do with her business in any way? It was a film project. I don't know if that was an excuse to get to know me. We talk about mostly other things now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilbanter98 Posted January 29, 2023 Author Share Posted January 29, 2023 6 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: She asked you to work with her on what kind of project? Does it have anything to do with her business in any way? Yeah it did at the beginning have to do with her business Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 29, 2023 Share Posted January 29, 2023 (edited) 14 minutes ago, wilbanter98 said: It was a film project. I don't know if that was an excuse to get to know me. We talk about mostly other things now. 12 minutes ago, wilbanter98 said: Yeah it did at the beginning have to do with her business It is understandable to feel worried about potential rejection. It may help to talk to her about your feelings and ask for more clarity about her intentions. Take things slow and focus on building a strong emotional connection before trying to take things further. Ultimately, it is important to remember that rejection is a possibility, but it does not have to define your experience. What stands out most to me is the fact that she contacted you to ask for your assistance with her film project. Her frequent invitations to her home are also unusual. Depending on what it is, it may be something, or it may not be anything. It's hard to say without knowing more about the situation. It's possible that she is genuinely interested in you, but it's also possible that she is just trying to be friendly. Edited January 29, 2023 by Alpacalia Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilbanter98 Posted January 29, 2023 Author Share Posted January 29, 2023 Thankyou for your comments. Yeah I think take things slowly with her, she told me she has gone through some difficult times recently with an accident but she is ok now. She is an amazing lady, I think she could be testing me to see if im worthy of commitment. I will try and get her to talk. There is good chemistry with us. I have grown fond of her for the person she is and her personality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 29, 2023 Share Posted January 29, 2023 7 hours ago, wilbanter98 said: . Im thinking I should just ask her out again and take her to a romantic place and see what happens. This is a great idea. If you like her this much step up and ask her on a date . Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 29, 2023 Share Posted January 29, 2023 Ignore the business idea as you don’t know her very well and are instead interested in romance. Ask her out on a date and see where it goes. Why are you afraid of rejection? She’s virtually nobody and you’ve only met once. Be a little more real with yourself and try not to build this up in your mind. It’s ok to feel nervous and very natural but check yourself there. Avoid sexting or “sexy talk” if you’re interested in getting to know her more in person. All the online interaction is a false sense of intimacy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 29, 2023 Share Posted January 29, 2023 (edited) 16 hours ago, wilbanter98 said: We have been out a few times and nothing has happened yet. Nothing happened, as in? What? Physical intimacy? Based on my vantage point, it seems to me that she has been doing the bulk of the initiating. That's all well and good, I guess. Ideally, if you would like to see her again, set something up with her. Edited January 29, 2023 by Alpacalia 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilbanter98 Posted January 29, 2023 Author Share Posted January 29, 2023 21 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: Nothing happened, as in? What? Physical intimacy? Based on my vantage point, it seems to me that she has been doing the bulk of the initiating. That's all well and good, I guess. Ideally, if you would like to see her again, set something up with her. Yeah nothing physical but Im not expecting that, I just don't know if Im picking up the signs or missing them. It just seems slow going which is not a bad thing I guess. The last time I asked her out she said she was busy working long hours and I said no problem. I don't really get if she started it all and now she is busy alot. She was very nice when we went out happy smiling and nice towards me. I will try and meet up with her asap and see what her thoughts are. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bluesandy Posted February 21, 2023 Share Posted February 21, 2023 I think all the signs she gave you is a strong interest in you.. Just ask her out and make a move to kiss her when you feel it.. Not sure what you are waiting for lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Johnjohnson2017 Posted February 21, 2023 Share Posted February 21, 2023 You should have initiated a kiss by now. That's the only way to know whether she could be interested in you romantically or just as a friend. It is really hard to tell whether she is just friendly or is romantically interested in you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted February 22, 2023 Share Posted February 22, 2023 Dude, this woman is BIG TIME into you. But you are so slow at picking up all the obvious signs. Playing with her hair, touching and leaning into you are strong signs that she's hot for you. She couldn't be more obvious. You need to start initiating more before she gets tired of being the only one making moves and gives up. As for the online story thing, platforms like IG or FB will automatically notify is someone in your contacts has posted. It's nothing weird. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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