bairdzo Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I went to dinner last night with my wife and noticed she had her wedding ring on her right hand. She said someone told her to do that during a separation(verbal separation only 2 weeks into it). Needless to say it really hurt my feeling. SHe switched it back and said it was no big deal, but what does that mean or am I being over-sensitive. To me its looks like your available! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Those are things that you work out.. I do think it means available if you don't have it on.. She did put it back on her ring finger.. I didn't have my wedding band when my exwife and I seperated.. As I smashed it flat with a 16lb sledge hammer and gave it back to her..( I wanted her to know it wasn't going back on my finger ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author bairdzo Posted November 4, 2005 Author Share Posted November 4, 2005 Thats some funny stuff! Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 From a woman's perspective that's huge. That means she's moving on. I know I didn't take my ring off until I was ready to date. Sorry........ Link to post Share on other sites
jonesgirly Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I took mine off the day I realized my husband had been involved in an affair. It shall go back on when it matches my outfit Link to post Share on other sites
Author bairdzo Posted November 4, 2005 Author Share Posted November 4, 2005 I'm sorry to hear that! Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I took mine off the day I realized my husband had been involved in an affair. It shall go back on when it matches my outfit HAHAHA THAT'S funny! I heard that before tho. Its not like shes not wearing it at all. I understand your still married, but your separated. When people see that tho....if they know what it means, will know that she's separated and maybe she wants people to see that. Link to post Share on other sites
tonyp56 Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 be glad your wife was still wearing her ring. My wife 1 1/2 weeks after she moved out, took her ring OFF. She has it on her key ring, but she doesn't wear it at all. Of course 2 weeks after she left the man she had been having an affair with moved in with her. At least your wife noticed that it bugged you and at least for you, put it back on, my wife could care less. Good luck, Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 To me its looks like your available! An empty wedding-ring finger means unmarried, possibly available, unless s/he is at work & jewelry is not worn for health & safety reasons. Another point is that separation is not a divorce. The separatees are still legally married, & extra-marital relationships can be problematic, from a legal as well as emotional standpoint. Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 I walked out on my husband because of the abuse and neglect. Even though I walked it took me a week to take off my ring. When I did it NEVER went back on.. Hell no. I wasn't ready to move forward yet but I wasn't going to have a ring on my finger to remind me of a commitment that wasn't there.. My exbf gave me a commitment ring it took me a week to take that off too.. NO ring to me means she doesn't plan to go back. Even if she put it on she might be doing that so as to soften the hurt you feel and also to make less drama for herself with you.. know my ring finger has always felt naked since I have taken off my wedding ring.. I actually had to put on my class ring to remove the naked feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 If I recall correctly, my ex-w had taken off her wedding ring shortly after I caught her & the OM. There was a time lag of several weeks after that before she moved out. I kept my ring on for about a month after she moved out, & I also put my school ring on the finger to allieviate the "naked" feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
21erkles Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 I felt a bit let down when I saw my wife with her wedding ring off. Her idea to seperate, I actually noticed it before she said anything to me. Mines off now too. Its about your head, symbols mean nothing at the end of it. Wish Id thought about the sledge hammer idea - I like that. Link to post Share on other sites
scobro Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 Wish Id thought about the sledge hammer idea - I like that. yeah but over my wifes head.................oooohhhhhh thats not nice shame on me:eek: Link to post Share on other sites
Devildog Posted November 16, 2005 Share Posted November 16, 2005 The day I moved out (at her request) for our separation, my XW took her ring off. Never put it back on. Lost track of it completely shortly after that too. Claimed she felt wrong to wear it while she was putting us through that. Riiiiiigggghhhhhtttt. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 16, 2005 Share Posted November 16, 2005 My old ring eventually went to a pawn shop. My present one is a different color & a different pattern. For a different person and a MUCH different marriage. __________________________________________ What if people stopped throwing rice at weddings, & threw potatoes instead? Link to post Share on other sites
Smyhlh Posted November 18, 2005 Share Posted November 18, 2005 I took my ring off, only because I questioned why I should wear it if he wasn't committed. Of course it went on my right hand a week later when he told me that it hurt him. I still wear- or rather wore my ring until yesterday and we have been divorced since May. Don't lose hope. Link to post Share on other sites
GuySimple Posted November 21, 2005 Share Posted November 21, 2005 Mine came off the day I decided to move out. My wife took hers off a few weeks later because she felt it just didn’t seem right to be wearing it when we were separated. I think it makes it easier for her to tell people that we are separated. Kind of looks a bit silly to be living apart with the expectations of moving on and still wearing the rings. It’s like who am I kidding. I actually gave my ring back to my wife. I don’t think it means that you are all of a sudden on the prowl looking for a replacement. Honestly, the longer I am single and see other couples the less excited I am about getting back into a relationship. The rings are a symbol of the commitment you gave to each other. I find it taught to believe that two people who live apart have this same level of commitment towards each other. Link to post Share on other sites
alfred1 Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 my wife left a little over a month ago, she had her ring on then one day i phoned her we got into a huge arguement i went to her grandmothers home where she is staying and she had taken it off i asked her why, she said because i pissed her off now she has her graduation ring in its place why is that? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 my wife left a little over a month ago, she had her ring on then one day i phoned her we got into a huge arguement i went to her grandmothers home where she is staying and she had taken it off i asked her why, she said because i pissed her off now she has her graduation ring in its place why is that? Punishment.. One of the reasons I took a sledge hammer to mine was when my then wife would be really pissed at me she would remove her ring..So I didn't want her to think that I was playing the same game that she did.. She knew it bothered me so she did it to punish me.. Link to post Share on other sites
alfred1 Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 why would it be punishment? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 why would it be punishment? Because she knows it bothers you.. she is pushing a button.. and it does bother you.. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 Because she knows it bothers you.. she is pushing a button.. and it does bother you.. Wow thanks I learned a bit here. My husband made a single brief comment about me not wearing mine. Different circumstances, 99% happily married, but I did not realize how important "the ring" is to men. I never really considered his feelings on this could be that deep. Thanks for the eye opener...... if you meant to do that or not! a4a Link to post Share on other sites
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