JTSW Posted February 10, 2023 Share Posted February 10, 2023 2 minutes ago, Lotsgoingon said: I get on a plane to go see a woman and she's at dinner FT'ing someone who is allegedly drunk--that's the crisis, she's drunk?--heck no. I'm done. The difference was OP didn't know the reason for the FT call, she just got up and flew home without asking him about it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author howwouldiknownow22 Posted February 10, 2023 Author Share Posted February 10, 2023 (edited) 2 hours ago, JTSW said: The difference was OP didn't know the reason for the FT call, she just got up and flew home without asking him about it. No that's not true. I asked him about it and he told me that right away. But, I didn't believe it. I didn't see any one other than a young pretty blonde calling him..... I thought he was lying and making an excuse. (even if it was true, I thought it was extremely unprofessional for him to be FaceTiming with his female employee who has to come to him for marital problems?!). Also, prior to him answering the call -- I saw him try to fix his hair and instinctively said something like "how do I look" But, regardless....I came here yesterday to post because I think my gut told me it would be a bad move to revisit this issue Yesterday, he said he had dinner with his "brother" and would be going skiing today with his daughter. When I texted him yesterday he didn't reply. Since we typically talk on the phone around 10pm my time --- I called him. No answer. So, I definitely canceled the flight and I texted this morning and said I've reconsidered this and will not be coming for dinner. He has a 24 hour cancel through Expedia so I let him know since I canceled it -- he will get a refund. I will block him, as well. No more drama...and I am glad I am honoring my gut on this one... Edited February 10, 2023 by howwouldiknownow22 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 10, 2023 Share Posted February 10, 2023 I really hope you mean it this time. I think we all know this is the same guy and for some reason you struggle to let him go. 19 minutes ago, howwouldiknownow22 said: I will block him, as well. No more drama...and I am glad I am honoring my gut on this one... Link to post Share on other sites
Author howwouldiknownow22 Posted February 10, 2023 Author Share Posted February 10, 2023 6 minutes ago, stillafool said: I really hope you mean it this time. I think we all know this is the same guy and for some reason you struggle to let him go. This is NOT the same guy! But, yes, I mean it... Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 10, 2023 Share Posted February 10, 2023 15 hours ago, howwouldiknownow22 said: My son will head to college in a year and I don't want to stay in the city that we live...after he goes to School. So, I've tried to broaden my scope because for long term...I'd like to live elsewhere. But, it's important that I carry out in my current town ...with my son... as much as I can and WHEN I can. Hope that makes sense. And I'm always upfront with my dates about that... I want LTR and I want to move elsewhere when my son goes to college. Then why not wait until your son goes off to college, you move, and then search for men in your new place of residence? This is a waste of time. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted February 10, 2023 Share Posted February 10, 2023 5 hours ago, howwouldiknownow22 said: This is NOT the same guy! But, yes, I mean it... The fact is, all of these guys could be interchangeable. They all share similar stories and behaviors, your relationships with them are identical. I have suggested at least 3 times that you consider making a hard boundary around long distance relationships. Of course I'm a random stranger on the web and there's no reason you should be following my instructions - but so far, you have not even addressed this suggestion and you are at least 4 and maybe 5 interchangeable long distance "boyfriends' (not by my definition, but yours - and some of these might be revisiting old failures) along on your path. Can you talk a little bit about why you keep repeating this? Why this setup? It sure hasn't worked. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 11, 2023 Share Posted February 11, 2023 I too, am confused about these guys you write about. They could indeed be all the same guy. What is more troublesome is that you're referring to these men as partners or boyfriends when you haven't been dating for long at all. There's been a number of these just in the last six months alone. Honestly, YOU are the constant in all of these troubles. Instead of complaining about the guys, it's time for you to do some self reflection on how you get too involved, too quickly. Are you in therapy? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted February 11, 2023 Share Posted February 11, 2023 OP it sounds like that while you’re looking for a LTR, the qualities you’re prioritizing, namely money / success / looks / charm, have nothing to do with a successful LTR. So when inevitably, and really it seems like this happens to you with every guy you choose, the guy turns out not to be LTR material, you end things. But learn nothing. And repeat the exact same pattern with the exact same outcome again. You need to change the types of men you’re picking or you’re doomed to repeat the pattern forever. Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted February 11, 2023 Share Posted February 11, 2023 No, don’t see him again. He seems arrogant. It took him way too long to admit he may have been wrong. then he quickly took a jab at you. no way would I let him waste another minute of my time. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted February 11, 2023 Share Posted February 11, 2023 5 hours ago, basil67 said: I too, am confused about these guys you write about. They could indeed be all the same guy. What is more troublesome is that you're referring to these men as partners or boyfriends when you haven't been dating for long at all. There's been a number of these just in the last six months alone. There have been 3 within the past 6 weeks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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