Friend's phone has been off for almost two days - should I worry?

[Superlative88]

1 hour ago, NuevoYorko said:

Lots of people do not feel like this.  It is confrontational and uncomfortable, while just ghosting is very easy, especially when the person is not a part of "real life" interactions.  

Ghosting is cruel and immature. 

I don't think honest and clear communication is confrontational.

[Superlative88]

21 minutes ago, stillafool said:

He didn't make that decision for you; but for himself.

I know. 

[NuevoYorko]

1 hour ago, Superlative88 said:

Ghosting is cruel and immature. 

I don't think honest and clear communication is confrontational.

Well ... you seem to be obsessed with this guy.  Often  the best way to deal with obsessed people is to just stop engaging.  The goal being, to successfully curtail contact.  The things you've shared that he's said give a clear picture of a person who wishes to be left alone.  

[Superlative88]

21 minutes ago, NuevoYorko said:

Well ... you seem to be obsessed with this guy.  Often  the best way to deal with obsessed people is to just stop engaging.  The goal being, to successfully curtail contact.  The things you've shared that he's said give a clear picture of a person who wishes to be left alone.  

That's also confusing when he's outright said he greatly values my friendship. I won't be engaging in this thread anymore. Supporting ghosting someone is not okay. No longer checking replies. Good bye. 

[S2B]

Never would any man who is truly interested and available stop communicating if he was really into you.

he’s just not interested enough.

block him.

[JTSW]

3 hours ago, Superlative88 said:

Supporting ghosting someone is not okay.

No-one is saying it's ok.

We are explaining that this may have been his only way to convey that he is not interested in you.

[ShyViolet]

8 hours ago, Superlative88 said:

That's also confusing when he's outright said he greatly values my friendship. I won't be engaging in this thread anymore. Supporting ghosting someone is not okay. No longer checking replies. Good bye. 

We are not "supporting ghosting."  We are trying to explain to you that you cannot control other people's behavior, you can only control your own.  Whether or not you agree with his ghosting, you need to accept reality.  He's not interested in you, whether you like his ways of showing that or not.  Now it's up to you to do what's best for you and try to get over this obsession that you have with him.  Being so mad or upset that he ghosted is focusing on the wrong thing.  There's no point in being so mad about something that you can't control.  You should be focusing your energy on just putting this all behind you and not wasting any more time on him.

[Lotsgoingon]

In the old days, a woman didn't return my call, I didn't consider it ghosting. I considered it a loud and clear action indicating she didn't want to talk to me. Loud, clear and simple: she does not want to talk to me. So I left her alone. The vast majority of time someone ignored my calls, I had already I sensed I had the lost the person or never had their interest.

So in fact, there were multiple signs that the person wasn't interested. I don't know how many more signs you need to figure out that this guy isn't interested. And look, people do NOT owe us a return call or a return text. They don't, especially when they have been signaling all along that they don't want the relationship we want.

 

 

 

[Alpacalia]

Yes, that's often the case. It's important to remember that his behavior is often a reflection of his own inner state, rather than a commentary on your worth or value as a person.

While it's understandable to feel hurt or upset that he behaves in a hurtful or unkind way, it's also important to approach the situation with compassion and understanding. Recognizing that someone's behavior may be rooted in their own struggles can help you avoid taking their behavior personally and can also help you respond in a more empathetic and supportive way.

Of course, it's also important to set boundaries and take care of yourself if he is consistently harmful or abusive.

His decision to ghost you is a reflection of him, not of you.

He lost interest.

While it can be tempting to try to reach out and demand an explanation for his behavior, it's often best to take a step back and focus on taking care of yourself. Remember that you deserve someone who is willing to communicate with you openly and honestly, and who respects you enough to treat you with kindness and consideration.