Breakup due to a silly misunderstanding

[rey99]

Hello. Me and my gf of 3 months broke up two weeks ago. I am 44 and she is 43. It was mutual due to a silly misunderstanding. One morning at 5.30 am she wakes me up by calling. I answered and she asks if there was anything I lied to her about. I said no. She sent me pics of my ex from Facebook and started crying. I said that was my past and the pics were from last year. I kinda got annoyed and said why you stalking me and don’t interfere in my personal life. Now let me remind that ours is not a committed relationship but we did have feelings for each other. Then she said let’s end things. I agreed. Next day she messaged me saying she was harsh and could have dealt softly and said we can remain friends now. I said ok. Then she went on vacation the next day as she had planned. From there she used to message me everyday about her vacation. Last night she arrived and immediately called me on my phone and spoke about her vacation and she was drunk too. While speaking she said ok love  and paused. After that we didn’t speak for 2 days. My common friend messaged her in front of me about her trip and asked if she spoke to me. She said she did but can’t remember much. She told him that she can be friends with benefits with me. She said she was too attached to me and was hurt when I said not to interfere in my personal life. Well I said that out of frustration as i had just woken up from sleep. I want to be back with her.  Should I message her and ask to meet so I can clear the misunderstanding?

She also mentioned to my friend that she had met a guy during vacation and was way too impressed with him but says she didn’t flirt with him and was decent. God knows. 

 Then she said she was too much into me and after we broke up she doesn’t have feelings for me anymore but will have sex when we get turned on. 

What should I make of all this? Can I get her back ? I do want to clear the doubts. How should I approach her?

Edited March 5, 2023 by rey99

[basil67]

Given it's only three months in and she's giving you a hard time about your history and falsely accusing you of lying (at 5:30am no less!) I'd say that your response to her was totally justifed.  What she's showing you is that she's insecure, reactive and has no concept of how to respectfully address an issue.   She is not a woman who you want in your future.

And please just block her.  If you go having sex with her, this is going to get complicated and messy.  

[glows]

I have so many questions. 

What was the reason for the break up? It’s not clear. Was it the call in the morning about the ex or was that after you broke up? You both weren’t in a committed relationship in the first place. Why not? It doesn’t sound like you took her seriously when she was quite attached to you.

Why was she crying like that when she called you? Is she often like this? Do you stay in contact with your exes?

[JTSW]

Nope. Sounds like she has allot of issues.

Also, she is only interested in you now for sex.

Cut this one loose.

Nothing good is going to come from being involved in any way with her.

[ShyViolet]

I wouldn't say that the breakup was because of a "misunderstanding".  She called you at 5:30am crying and sent you some old pictures of your ex that you had on your facebook..... why exactly?  That was a crazy, rather unhinged thing to do.  If this is a sign of the kind of person she is, it's probably best you steer clear of her.  She sounds like kind of a mess.