MarkV Posted March 5, 2023 Share Posted March 5, 2023 Hi everyone. Thanks for clicking on my post and reading. I have been dating a lovely girl since the middle of November and we have a lot of chemistry and get on very well. We’ve started to have more in depth discussions about our lives,pasts etc and she’s been hurt quite bad in the past by a couple of boyfriends, one of which was abusive. She can be guarded at times and I give her compliments etc as she truly is stunning! She did say sorry for being a bit closed off and that she’s a slow burner with emotions but that she does like me VERY much. We see each other roughly twice a week but lately her job has put a great deal of prsssure and stress on her and has run her down to a point where the doctor wanted to sign her off for two weeks. She left her old job due to stress and has said that she doesn’t ever want to feel that way again. We usually see each other on Saturday evenings but I didn’t hear from her yesterday and when I checked in she said she’d been resting all day as her mind is a bit ‘off’. I didn’t really know what she meant but she was home alone so I guessed it was because she wanted to be in her own thoughts after a tough week. I’ve said that I’m here for her if she wants to talk and she said she appreciates that. She went to her parents today like she does most Sundays so I got her some flowers and left them at her door to say I was thinking of her. So should I give space (obviously staying in touch like always) and wait for when she’s ready to see me again? It’s all part of getting to know each other and we are still learning about each other. I think the world of her and have my own business and hobbies that keep me occupied. I’m just a bit worried about her. Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted March 6, 2023 Share Posted March 6, 2023 Give her a little space, but if she stays withdrawn from you for more than another week then you should consider carefully whether or not she's capable of the kind of relationship you want. You don't want to put yourself in the position of being at the mercy of her stress levels on an ongoing basis. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 6, 2023 Share Posted March 6, 2023 4 hours ago, dv123 said: Ive said that I’m here for her if she wants to talk and she said she appreciates that. She went to her parents today like she does most Sundays so I got her some flowers and left them at her door to say I was thinking of her. This is thoughtful. Now take a breath and step back. Let her come to you in her own time. Link to post Share on other sites
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