Boogle Posted March 12, 2023 Share Posted March 12, 2023 (edited) Hi there:) just looking for some advice on how I should approach a situation . dating a guy 38 lives 2 hrs away from me he has a teenage daughter who he sees usually every second weekend I’m 43 , no kids but I have to look after my elderly mother in my house we have been seeing each other more or less every weekend he came to mine when I had no carers for my mother I went to his the other weekend when his daughter usually came over it has happened before that he couldn’t come up a weekend but anyway this weekend just gone he was due to come but during the week said his daughter hasn’t seen him properly in ages and she wanted him to bring her places anyway I don’t want to say anything because I know his daughter comes first but I really missed not seeing him don’t think it bothered him as much well he seems very chilled about it I also don’t want to seem all needy and I’m prob seeing him as my escape and entertainment at the weekends Edited March 12, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator clarify title Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 12, 2023 Share Posted March 12, 2023 27 minutes ago, Boogle said: . Dating a guy 38 lives 2 hrs away from me .I’m 43 , no kids but I have to look after my elderly mother in my house. I’m prob seeing him as my escape and entertainment at the weekends It's good it's working out. However there's a few logistical problems with distance and your caretaker role and his being a single father. Perhaps look into respite care and support for caretakers. You do need a break, however distance dating a single father won't solve that issue in the long run. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted March 15, 2023 Share Posted March 15, 2023 His daughter will always be his priority. There's nothing you can do about that. You'd be in the wrong if you complained about it. Link to post Share on other sites
BrinnM Posted March 15, 2023 Share Posted March 15, 2023 (edited) Not sure how long you guys have been dating, but it sounds like you are always at his place when he has his daughter every other weekend. It’s great to have a good relationship with your partner’s children, but I’m sure she also wants to spend some time alone with her dad on occasion, without you being there. I would give them that time. It’s very important for their relationship. Children grow up so fast and if you are always present when it’s his weekend with her, I mean, he can’t really focus on her. I totally understand that he wants to do stuff with his daughter without you. That tells me he’s a great dad. You should be proud & support that! Edited March 15, 2023 by BrinnM Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 15, 2023 Share Posted March 15, 2023 I’m need, if you are always present when he has his daughter, I can understand why she/they would want some time together without you present. It’s important that kids get time with their parents after divorce. I am also dating a single father and I would give them lots of time alone on the weekends they were together. If I went over it was usually just for dinner and a board game. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 15, 2023 Share Posted March 15, 2023 I agree he and his daughter need time alone to do things and for her to talk to her father about things that are on her mind. Do you have friends that you can go out with for your entertainment when he's with his daughter? Link to post Share on other sites
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