Breaking up during the talking stage

[lunabee]

I think I fell for this man, we've been talking for almost 3 months now, we were just in the talking stage. I'm very picky when it comes to my future potential partner and I think I found that in him, he matched my energy even though we were still strangers.

That day, we were talking and joking around as usual, we brought up a topic and we started talking, when all of a sudden he broke me with some words. I told him I did something that he didn't like, and he had every right not to. I, myself, felt horrible and I still hate myself so much for doing it.

He told me "I don't like you much right now"

He didn't say anything after that, and neither did I

And now, every time I log in I see him online but we don't talk. I want to block him, just to get him out of my hair, just to forget about him completely, but I'm not that kind of person because, again, I'm the villain of the story, not him. He was only being brutally honest with me.

Now I'm hurt, because I realized that whatever we had is over, I realized that we'll never talk again. It's really hard.

What a I supposed to do exactly? Is blocking him the right option to do?

[Weezy1973]

1 hour ago, lunabee said:

What a I supposed to do exactly? Is blocking him the right option to do?

So without knowing the details, it sounds like you did something in your past that he didn’t like? Is that right? If so, it’s possible this was coming to an end anyways as it’s odd for someone to end things for such a reason. This might just have been a good excuse for him to end it. 
 

And for your own mental health, blocking him and deleting him from social media etc. is for the best. 

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, lunabee said:

 , every time I log in I see him online but we don't talk

What type of app was this? Dating or gaming or social media?.

 Was this a distance chat? Unfortunately it seems you over shared something. What was the reason you disclosed that?

[lunabee]

2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

What type of app was this? Dating or gaming or social media?.

 Was this a distance chat? Unfortunately it seems you over shared something. What was the reason you disclosed that?

Social media. It's kind of a long distance, yes.

I didn't think it was a big of a deal at the beginning, until he showed his reaction 

To be more clear, here's the full story: we both adore cats, I told him that I'm neutering my cat, and I'm feeling really bad about it, he saw it as a crime (personally I think he was right), and right after that he said that he doesn't like me anymore.

 

[basil67]

Given the never ending cycle of kittens being dumped at shelters, neutering cats is what responsible cat owners do.   I have zero respect for this guy's stance.

Besides, if you have a she cat, you're at risk of unwanted kittens and if you have a tom, you're at risk of unwanted behaviours in your home.  

Edited March 18, 2023 by basil67

[lunabee]

10 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Given the never ending cycle of kittens being dumped at shelters, neutering cats is what responsible cat owners do.   I have zero respect for this guy's stance.

Besides, if you have a she cat, you're at risk of unwanted kittens and if you have a tom, you're at risk of unwanted behaviours in your home.  

Thank you, this made me feel a lot better.

[basil67]

I'm glad.  You're doing the right thing by your cat 😽

[Alpacalia]

3 hours ago, lunabee said:

Social media. It's kind of a long distance, yes.

I didn't think it was a big of a deal at the beginning, until he showed his reaction 

To be more clear, here's the full story: we both adore cats, I told him that I'm neutering my cat, and I'm feeling really bad about it, he saw it as a crime (personally I think he was right), and right after that he said that he doesn't like me anymore.

 

Share with him to spend a few years volunteering at an animal shelter; it may alter his perspective.

[Lotsgoingon]

Look if he reacted as he did, then you guys were going nowhere. You didn't do anything wrong.

Let's get this clear? What the heck did you do wrong? I don't see it. 

BTW: you were texting. That's not talking. Sorry, it's a long way away from talking. 

Edited March 19, 2023 by Lotsgoingon

[JTSW]

His behaviour was very unreasonable in my opinion.

You're not hurting your cat, just being a loving responsible owner.

I too adore cats and all animals and I too would have them neutered.

We have many shelters here that are getting overloaded with unwanted kittens etc.

You're doing the right and best thing for your fur baby.

 

[ShyViolet]

On 3/18/2023 at 5:57 PM, lunabee said:

To be more clear, here's the full story: we both adore cats, I told him that I'm neutering my cat, and I'm feeling really bad about it, he saw it as a crime (personally I think he was right), and right after that he said that he doesn't like me anymore.

 

Oh my goodness.  Don't get me started on this.  He is absolutely 100% wrong if he thinks it's a "crime" or bad to spay and neuter cats.  I have zero respect for anyone who is against spay and neutering of cats.  ALL cats need to be spayed and neutered for their own health and to reduce the overpopulation crisis of unwanted kittens that are literally dying in shelters.  Responsible cat owners neuter their cats, period.  His opinion is literally disgusting and there's no way I would date someone who has his opinion on this.

He is uneducated on this topic.  There is nothing that makes me angrier than animal neglect/abuse.

Edited March 26, 2023 by ShyViolet