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He told me that I had an affair, that he saw me kiss another guy by the vending machine. 

Never happened... at all. I'm speechless. Why's he making things up?

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4 hours ago, justaskingok said:

He told me that I had an affair, that he saw me kiss another guy by the vending machine. 

Sorry this is happening. How long ago was the breakup? Do you still see each other at work/school? His musings and drama are irrelevant at this point.

Why is he talking about this to you? Or in contact with you at all?  Delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps.

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Could be many reasons. He could be drunk and confrontational, he could’ve heard something, he wants your attention no matter how, he hates you, he still loves you, the list goes on. You won’t know if you don’t ask. But engaging with him could open a whole ‘nother can of worms.

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12 hours ago, justaskingok said:

He told me that I had an affair, that he saw me kiss another guy by the vending machine. 

Never happened... at all. I'm speechless. Why's he making things up?

Who knows?  You know it didn't happen so brush it off.  He's an ex for a reason so just add this incident to the list or why you're no longer together and do NC with him.

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Who cares what your ex says?  Why are you even still talking to him or caring what he thinks?

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Whoa, I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

Did he say anything about what flavor of chips were in the vending machine? Because if it was Cool Ranch, you might have to plead guilty...

Sounds like he's not being completely honest. Why don't you ask him why he's saying this?

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On 3/19/2023 at 4:17 AM, justaskingok said:

He told me that I had an affair, that he saw me kiss another guy by the vending machine. 

Never happened... at all. I'm speechless. Why's he making things up?

could be delusions - maybe he should visit a doctor regarding his fantasys?

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11 minutes ago, Ray_xx said:

could be delusions - maybe he should visit a doctor regarding his fantasys?

He ignored me at all costs after our breakup, making sure not to be where i would be.

Then we started texting and hanging out again (never one on one, we have the same friends). Then he told a friend to tell me not to talk to him. And then after a while he texted me again....I ignored and stopped entertaing him as advised on here.

Now he's telling me this out of no where.....I said no I didn't and walked away confused and weirded out.

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On 3/19/2023 at 2:39 PM, Alpacalia said:

Whoa, I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

Did he say anything about what flavor of chips were in the vending machine? Because if it was Cool Ranch, you might have to plead guilty...

Sounds like he's not being completely honest. Why don't you ask him why he's saying this?

Because if he wants to talk to me he has to come respectfully.

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1 hour ago, justaskingok said:

Because if he wants to talk to me he has to come respectfully.

Unless you can find someone who can answer your question, you'll probably just have to keep wondering.

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1 hour ago, justaskingok said:

 walked away confused and weirded out.

Weird him out: Delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps.

Be polite but aloof if you see him in groups. Don't fall for his attention seeking games. Rise above the bait and ignore him.

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2 hours ago, justaskingok said:

Because if he wants to talk to me he has to come respectfully.

He's an ex, you don't owe him conversation.  Since you're sick of him and he's an ex, have you blocked him yet?  That will assure you don't hear from him.

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15 minutes ago, stillafool said:

He's an ex, you don't owe him conversation.  Since you're sick of him and he's an ex, have you blocked him yet?  That will assure you don't hear from him.

He said this to me in person though.

 

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So stop engaging with him.  Either stay away from him at parties or you can choose to not attend

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46 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

He said this to me in person though.

 

Why are you still seeing and talking to him?

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11 minutes ago, basil67 said:

So stop engaging with him.  Either stay away from him at parties or you can choose to not attend

He came up to me unexpectedly where we both have to be at...not at a party or a social occasion. 

We haven't been engaging with eachother for a while, he caught me off guard, only reason I said "no I didn't" to his accusation. But walked away immediately. 

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Kissing a guy at a vending machine is so specific. Was your boyfriend at the time outside peeping through the bushes?

How is it he ran in to you recently?

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5 hours ago, justaskingok said:

He came up to me unexpectedly where we both have to be at...

Do you work or go to school together? Just go about your business and don't give him the time of day. Also you need to delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Leave no gaps or mixed messages inadvertantly. Make a clean break all the way around.

 

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12 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

Kissing a guy at a vending machine is so specific. Was your boyfriend at the time outside peeping through the bushes?

Lol that's why I'm baffled. 

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10 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Do you work or go to school together? Just go about your business and don't give him the time of day. Also you need to delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Leave no gaps or mixed messages inadvertantly. Make a clean break all the way around.

 

Yes.

 

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9 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

Yes

Ok. Then just go about your classes and ignore him. He's just messing you about for fun. Don't play the game or even ponder his antics.

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Just keep ignoring him. 

You all sound quite young. I promise you in 5 years this guy will be but a blip on the timeline of your life. 

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Meh, pay no mind to it.

He's just trying to find out if you ever went behind his back.

You both know you didn't so that's the end of it.

He's just being immature.

Ignore it.

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