Advice for dating someone who works month on, month off.

[Marcey89]

Looking for some advice. I have started speaking to someone, I am (33 and he is 44) who works month on, month off (I know this person, but haven't spent any time together/socialising etc). Texts have been going great and we have had a couple of lengthy phonecalls in between his work schedule, really flirty, some pictures have been sent back and forth - not concerned at all about the conversation we have been having. He is home next week, and we plan to meet up. Usually when I date someone I would suggest doing something and then a couple of weeks later schedule something else in, but I feel like due to him only being home for a month, we should take advantage of his time home and try and do a few things together (if we are both feeling it). I don't want to come across to heavy and scare him away but on the otherhand I'm at that age where I don't really care and want him to know I like him. He says it is really hard for him to meet people and date with his work schedule so I really don't want him to go away after the month and for us to not have had any quality time together. Has anyone been in a similar situation, how do you date someone new who works away? Do things move a bit faster? 

Thanks. 

[S2B]

If you have fun then see him while he’s off work.

know that this will feel like a hot and cold dating situation.

have you done your homework to be certain he isn’t married?

don’t speed up the dating schedule - just wait and see how it feels when you get together.

[glows]

You’re getting too ahead of yourself here. You both have plans to meet up next week when he’s back so do that first and see whether there’s mutual interest.

You both may find this is not a match upon meeting each other or in light of romance. Or that being platonic friends is best. 

And he has to do some work as well and ask you out. Not you planning weeks and months into the future before he’s had a chance to pull half his weight or at least express he likes you so damn much he can’t get enough of you and has to see you again. Let the man figure it out on his own. Go from there.

[ShyViolet]

You are getting WAY ahead of yourself.  You have not met this guy in person yet at all.  You need to be focusing on simply the first date.  Meet up in person once, see how it goes, and see if you have chemistry.  You should not be trying to schedule your first, second, third date all at once.  No one does that.  That is way too much and a great way to scare a guy off with being too clingy.... regardless if he has a weird work schedule.

If the first date goes well, see if he suggests scheduling a second before he goes away again.

[Marcey89]

Thanks everyone. Just for clarity, we are part of a running club so we run together as part of a bigger group so we have met and chatted there just not "formally". Definitely not married thank goodness! I'll just see how the first casual date goes and hopefully from there we both want to see each other. 

I'm fully aware of how psychotic I sound right now hahaha!!