Should I leave or Stay?

[random girl]

I have a boyfriend for 5 years, I want to take our relationship into the new level, he agrees too. But I don't see actions towards our future. He always says "soon if we had the budget" but did not do anything about it. We had so many plans we agree to pay everything together for it to happen, but it seems like he's not doing his part. We are not getting younger that's why I ask you guys,  will i wait and stay or just leave? 

[basil67]

I want to help, but need a whole lot more information.   First question is what does "into the new level" mean?    You say that you're not getting younger...so how old are both of you?   Saving is always good, but what are the goals you're saving for? And what does him "doing something about it" mean in terms of budget?  How do your savings compare to his?

We need the long story  

Edited March 23, 2023 by basil67

[Acacia98]

In addition to basil67's questions, I gotta ask, are you already living together? And do you want to have kids?

Edited March 23, 2023 by Acacia98

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, random girl said:

 I don't see actions towards our future. He always says "soon if we had the budget" but did not do anything about it. 

He seems comfortable with the status quo. If he were interested he would be driving it as well. Reconsider pushing for "the next level" with someone who's this reluctant. Keep in mind, moving in together is a convenience, not a commitment. It sounds like he's just coasting along.

[JTSW]

5 hours ago, random girl said:

will i wait and stay or just leave? 

Honestly we can't tell you what to do.

This is your decision and yours alone.

It sounds like you have a good relationship and I'm not really seeing any problem.

He's comfortable.

If you are eager to move things along then sit him down and talk about it.