Author Crushed-1 Posted March 26, 2023 Author Share Posted March 26, 2023 17 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Agree that the approach to slow down and observe is the best at this point. 16 weeks dating is the getting to know you stage. It's exactly what you are doing. Getting to know the good, the bad and the ugly. It's for you to assess each other, not make wedding plans. You seem to want to give him a chance despite the red flags so far. So far he manipulates dating apps in order to date much younger women, he's using faux future talk to disarm and dazzle and he's sending women nudes (doesn't really matter when) with the excuse that he was wounded. You also don't really know what other red flags are yet to come, so let's just say, where there's smoke, there's fire. It's still early so take your time and use whatever information you have so far to protect yourself from future headaches and heartaches. I agree with everything you've written, Wiseman2. I'd be foolish to try and argue with the facts you've outlined here. The biggest obstacle here is that I don't know what other red flags are out there. As I mentioned earlier, maybe this needs to be a 3 strikes and you're out situation. He's already got 2 against him. You're right, it's early. I need to slow down. It's just so hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube. We've really expedited our relationship, it was impossible to slow down the feelings, actions, and generally how we were feeling about each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crushed-1 Posted March 26, 2023 Author Share Posted March 26, 2023 22 hours ago, NuevoYorko said: Why did he lie about his age? He wasn't getting many matches on the dating site because of his age. He's 60 and I'm 44. I had my filters set to a maximum of 54 in my settings and I'm sure younger woman have their max age set even lower. Not that it matters, but he's in good shape for his age. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted March 26, 2023 Share Posted March 26, 2023 What is is prior dating / relationship history? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 26, 2023 Share Posted March 26, 2023 7 hours ago, Crushed-1 said: , I know that he'll just take me in his arms and tell me everything I want to hear. This may feel great and help you stay in the bliss bubble you're enjoying. However there's already signs of trouble that are starting to surface. Reflect if you're in love with who he really is so far or who you hoped he could be. Link to post Share on other sites
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