Merrilsilverste Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 (edited) Why would a guy friend ask me where I'm meeting my friend? He was going to meet a female friend and then asked of I was working late. I told him no and that I was going to see my friend. Then he asked where will you meet your friend and I told him about the place and he said yes I know that place. He works part time at a theatre which stages dance, plays etc. He works there casually as a bartender or a stage assistant. I asked him if he has watched any shows recently as they have a lot of stuff going on and he's been working there quite frequently. He said he hasnt watched a single one but then said he would like to watch watch romeo and juliet does that mean something ? We share a lot of romantic history, we ve been on dates, and expressed liking as well . I asked him if he watched any shows recently and he said he hasn't but he would like to see romeo and juliet. I have never known him to be a romantic and he claims he doesnt like romantic things. But then he said this. Is it just a coincidence or he was hinting something ? Why ask this? Edited April 4, 2023 by Merrilsilverste Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 Sounds like he's fishing for information. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 if you have been on dates etc...by now he should be able to express his full intensions. I think you are trying/hoping to see something that may no be there. Slow your roll 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 It could just be he's heard or read about Romeo and Juliet and just wants to see the play. I can't see how mentioning that to you is a sign of romantic interest especially since you've already dated. Did he ever ask you out again? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merrilsilverste Posted April 4, 2023 Author Share Posted April 4, 2023 9 minutes ago, stillafool said: It could just be he's heard or read about Romeo and Juliet and just wants to see the play. I can't see how mentioning that to you is a sign of romantic interest especially since you've already dated. Did he ever ask you out again? Yes and we told each other our feelings too but he struggles with commitment so we didn't take it further but he still wanted to talk so we do Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merrilsilverste Posted April 4, 2023 Author Share Posted April 4, 2023 55 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: Sounds like he's fishing for information. Fishing for information? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 2 hours ago, Merrilsilverste said: We share a lot of romantic history, we ve been on dates, and expressed liking as well . Do you date regularly or exclusively? Try to focus on what the status of the relationship is. Reflect if you're happy with the dates and where this is or isn't going. By "commitment issues", do you mean casual dating but you would like more? Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 It sounds like he was asking a simple question and maybe just making conversation. I think you are reading too much into this. If he is truly interested in dating you, he'll make an actual move like ask you out. If he doesn't do that, then don't waste your time over-analyzing little things like this. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 39 minutes ago, Merrilsilverste said: Yes and we told each other our feelings too but he struggles with commitment so we didn't take it further but he still wanted to talk so we do Was anything about your relationship similar to Romeo &Juliets story? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merrilsilverste Posted April 4, 2023 Author Share Posted April 4, 2023 10 minutes ago, stillafool said: Was anything about your relationship similar to Romeo &Juliets story? Well only thing similar is I'm on a student visa but looking for a sponsored job and he has residency Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merrilsilverste Posted April 4, 2023 Author Share Posted April 4, 2023 36 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Do you date regularly or exclusively? Try to focus on what the status of the relationship is. Reflect if you're happy with the dates and where this is or isn't going. By "commitment issues", do you mean casual dating but you would like more? Yes regularly and yes we were happy but he has a lot of financial issues and studies to do hence his work came before us Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 1 hour ago, Merrilsilverste said: Fishing for information? Being nosy. To be clear, you are friends who dated in the past. There is no commitment to be exclusive. I'm sure you're in the present moment when you're together. When you're not with him, your life is your own, and you prefer it that way. It is not important for the other person to be concerned with what you are doing or where you are going. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 1 hour ago, Merrilsilverste said: he struggles with commitment so we didn't take it further but he still wanted to talk so we do And how is this working for you? You seem to be looking for signs that is still interested in you. Your feelings are involved. Be careful with how much contact you continue to have with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merrilsilverste Posted April 4, 2023 Author Share Posted April 4, 2023 1 hour ago, Alpacalia said: Being nosy. To be clear, you are friends who dated in the past. There is no commitment to be exclusive. I'm sure you're in the present moment when you're together. When you're not with him, your life is your own, and you prefer it that way. It is not important for the other person to be concerned with what you are doing or where you are going. Yes that's why I was very surprised when he asked where are you going to see your friend. I was like why ask this because I didn't ask him about who he's meeting and where he's going Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merrilsilverste Posted April 4, 2023 Author Share Posted April 4, 2023 1 hour ago, ExpatInItaly said: And how is this working for you? You seem to be looking for signs that is still interested in you. Your feelings are involved. Be careful with how much contact you continue to have with him. I am fine with it Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 2 hours ago, Merrilsilverste said: Well only thing similar is I'm on a student visa but looking for a sponsored job and he has residency I'm not seeing how this relates to the story of Romeo & Juliet. I think you are hoping for more meaning to what he said than what he meant. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merrilsilverste Posted April 4, 2023 Author Share Posted April 4, 2023 19 minutes ago, stillafool said: I'm not seeing how this relates to the story of Romeo & Juliet. I think you are hoping for more meaning to what he said than what he meant. It means if I don't get a sponsored job I will have to go back and we will be separated just like romeo and juliet Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 (edited) 55 minutes ago, Merrilsilverste said: Yes that's why I was very surprised when he asked where are you going to see your friend. I was like why ask this because I didn't ask him about who he's meeting and where he's going You and he are friends right? His question is a perfectly normal question for a friend to ask. I find it more unusual that you don't make similar chit chat. Regarding the Romeo and Juliet comment - as he's not interested in shows or romantic things, I think it was likely the only name he could remember at that instant. Did you already know that he's not interested in shows? If so, why did you ask the question? Lastly, if you got sent back home, it won't be like Romeo and Juliet because you're not romantic partners who are desperately in love. His other activities were more important to him than dating you. I'm sorry, but I believe you're overthinking this to a high degree Edited April 4, 2023 by basil67 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merrilsilverste Posted April 4, 2023 Author Share Posted April 4, 2023 10 minutes ago, basil67 said: You and he are friends right? His question is a perfectly normal question for a friend to ask. I find it more unusual that you don't make similar chit chat. Regarding the Romeo and Juliet comment - as he's not interested in shows or romantic things, I think it was likely the only name he could remember at that instant. Did you already know that he's not interested in shows? If so, why did you ask the question? Lastly, if you got sent back home, it won't be like Romeo and Juliet because you're not romantic partners who are desperately in love. His other activities were more important to him than dating you. I'm sorry, but I believe you're overthinking this to a high degree We aren't really friends. We dated and we still talk and have romantic feelings Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 OK, well it's a perfectly normal question for a person who talks to another. If the shared "romantic feelings" aren't strong enough for you to become a couple, then there's really nothing to see here Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 4, 2023 Share Posted April 4, 2023 1 hour ago, Merrilsilverste said: We aren't really friends. We dated and we still talk and have romantic feelings It's clear you have romantic feelings for him and you said you've both expressed them. If so, why aren't you a couple? You guys aren't even dating anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 5, 2023 Share Posted April 5, 2023 2 hours ago, Merrilsilverste said: It means if I don't get a sponsored job I will have to go back and we will be separated just like romeo and juliet Romeo and Juliet were separated by DEATH. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 5, 2023 Share Posted April 5, 2023 8 hours ago, Merrilsilverste said: I am fine with it So then why are you asking what a small question like this means? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 5, 2023 Share Posted April 5, 2023 11 hours ago, Merrilsilverste said: . We dated and we still talk and have romantic feelings Since you seem to want more than this, it's up to you to step back and and date the kind of men who are ready willing and able to have the type of relationship you're interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted April 5, 2023 Share Posted April 5, 2023 I honestly don't see any hidden meaning in what he said. I don't see any romantic hints. Link to post Share on other sites
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