Author Starrs Posted April 14, 2023 Author Share Posted April 14, 2023 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: And that's the man you hope will give you closure......Do you see how ridiculous it is? Definitely not anymore, he’s worse than I thought. He needs therapy he’s clearly miserable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 15, 2023 Share Posted April 15, 2023 Please step away from this "victim" mode. I believe what you say; he was / is an abusive loser. Obviously you were all in; you felt you did things that warranted an apology. So you and this guy, together, created a sick relationship where you both abused each other. You are continuing to wallow in it with every post you write here. Isn't it time you moved on? And get some therapy of your own so you don't start this up with the next creepy guy you meet? Link to post Share on other sites
Calmandfocused Posted April 15, 2023 Share Posted April 15, 2023 You don’t deserve an apology from him. You deserve to : forgive yourself. learn from the experience Make better choices for yourself in the future. You think an apology from him will make you feel better? If so you are very very wrong about this. Abusers are master manipulators and liars. His words have no meaning or substance. The last thing i ever said to one abusive ex (there were several unfortunately) was that he was a narcissistic abuser, that I never wanted to see his face again and that he needed to get out my house immediately. I never spoke or wrote another word to him ever again and I don’t regret what I said either. If my words upset/ offended him then so be it. I didn’t need an apology from him. I needed him to get out of my life. That’s exactly what you need too. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 15, 2023 Share Posted April 15, 2023 Since my last post, I took a look at your posting history. It seems like this is a consistent pattern with all guys you date and it starts right at the beginning. And you definitely play your part. Are you planning to continue this behavior in your dating life, or would you like to take steps to change this pattern? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 I was wondering....do you know if he even received your apology? He could have you blocked. Also, none of us are under any obligation to accept an apology. Nor are we bound to forgive people for hurting us. There's someone in my past who if they apologised, I'd ignore them. I'm very happy without them in my life and wouldn't allow even a crack to open for them to speak with me. And in all honesty, perhaps he's also doing what he has to do to move on from this relationship which sounded very volatile and toxic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted April 17, 2023 Share Posted April 17, 2023 On 4/14/2023 at 10:28 AM, Starrs said: He told my friend he despises me and plans to file a report on me. He said he doesn’t care how much I feel sorry. He hopes I cry and miss him. Stay focused on what he has said if you wish to remain trapped. In an episode of Investigation ID, a woman was married to an abusive man. You know what he did? He tied her up and murdered her five children in front of her, then shot her and slashed her face. The woman faced an unimaginable tragedy when her five children were murdered before her eyes by her abusive husband. Despite the horror of it all, she found the courage and strength to forgive him. She took the necessary steps to move on with her life. So no matter how difficult the circumstances, it is possible to find the resilience to forgive and the courage to start anew. The woman survived. That said, forgiveness does not imply pursuing a relationship with the forgiven person. Forgiving someone does not mean you condone their actions. People don't have to know that you forgive them. The decision to forgive someone is personal. Remember... Forgiveness favors the forgiver more than the forgiven. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 17, 2023 Share Posted April 17, 2023 On 4/12/2023 at 7:54 AM, Starrs said: Right but the fact he won’t acknowledge his mistakes shows the type of person he is. He did me wrong just like I did. He would cuss me out in public every time he was angry. He did a lot more than I did. Erm ... who cares whether he acknowledges his mistakes at this point? He is YOUR EX. I will also add that if I were in his shoes, including being a complete lowlife loser like you've described him, I too would ignore your apology. You would have already been blocked. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 17, 2023 Share Posted April 17, 2023 Get even. Ignore him too. Delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps so you are back in control. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted April 17, 2023 Share Posted April 17, 2023 (edited) On 4/14/2023 at 6:28 PM, Starrs said: He told my friend he despises me and plans to file a report on me. He said he doesn’t care how much I feel sorry. He hopes I cry and miss him. A report for what? What are you not telling us? What is it about this guy that you can't let go? On 4/14/2023 at 6:29 PM, Starrs said: I wasn’t a good gf but I learned from my mistakes. What exactly did you do? Were you harassing him? I'm picking up that there are things on your part that you are not disclosing. Edited April 17, 2023 by JTSW 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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