Neecy Posted April 13, 2023 Share Posted April 13, 2023 My husband said he wanted to build custom closets in our house when we first bought it. He doesn't have much experience with carpentry at all but he's still in general pretty handy. We've lived in this house now for 5 years and we still don't have any closet systems (master bedroom and 2 kids rooms). I've asked if we could just put cheap closet rods and/or wire shelving but he refuses and promises he'll build the closets because he wants to make them super fancy with adjustable shelves and lighting etc. I then asked if we could get someone to build nice closets for us but he still wants to do it himself. Should I just go behind his back and have closets installed or should I just respect his wishes and keep waiting many more years? What should I do? Am I being unreasonable? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 13, 2023 Share Posted April 13, 2023 5 minutes ago, Neecy said: M. Should I just go behind his back and have closets installed or should I just respect his wishes and keep waiting many more years? It depends who is paying for the renovations and what you can afford. It wouldn't hurt to get a few estimates. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neecy Posted April 13, 2023 Author Share Posted April 13, 2023 We both work and have shared accounts so it would be a shared expense. I'll work on getting estimates to see if I can convince him it's worth the labor cost just to get them done. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted April 14, 2023 Share Posted April 14, 2023 I would just go ahead and do it. It'll never get done if you don't. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted April 14, 2023 Share Posted April 14, 2023 I would give him a deadline - if it’s not done by September 2023, I’m hiring someone to do it. That gives him the summer (I’m assuming that he has some holidays), and it prepares him for the fact that you will contract out if he doesn’t get it done. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted April 14, 2023 Share Posted April 14, 2023 Don't go behind his back. If you insist on moving forward then let him know you're going to do so. Maybe it'll be the kick in the behind he needs... Maybe... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 14, 2023 Share Posted April 14, 2023 I too, would give a deadline. But make sure the deadline involves completion...with the view to having the wardrobe company strip out a half done job and doing it properly 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted April 15, 2023 Share Posted April 15, 2023 14 hours ago, BaileyB said: I would give him a deadline - if it’s not done by September 2023, I’m hiring someone to do it. That gives him the summer (I’m assuming that he has some holidays), and it prepares him for the fact that you will contract out if he doesn’t get it done. I second this. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 15, 2023 Share Posted April 15, 2023 On 4/13/2023 at 2:51 PM, Neecy said: it would be a shared expense. I'll work on getting estimates to see if I can convince him it's worth the labor cost just to get them done. Thanks Absolutely. You don't need permission to commence renovations on your own place. Just go ahead and get it done without ultimatums or deadlines. Obviously he's not interested in this DIY project or it would be done already. Link to post Share on other sites
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