why is my mom so $$ and are women really like this

[joel]

today my mom who cleans ppls houses has been going to this guy and his wifes house both around late 20's -early 30's , the guy is white and the girl is e indian, guy has 2 cars a porsche and a merceds suv each like 150 000 and is moving into a 2.3 million or more house in a rich area.

my moms like woow this guy is rich and all and that his newly wedded wife must be very lucky to marry such a rich guy. thats all shes been braggin about at dinner and tellin my sis to marry a rich guy --ya now u get a better life this and that. "wow the house is so nice i would love to have it and live in it " ."joey's wife must be soo lucky ah jenny(my sis) make sure when u find a husband make sure he has a good job and is rich, it really makes all the difference in ur life".

ok are chinese girls or girls as a whole like this and also are u more willing to marry and date a non asian or go even out with the guy just b/c he is rich. it seems like they are gung ho about dating and marrying someone chinese-we are chinese , but if that person is rich like a doctor or just plain rich like owning a 2 million or more house -the guy is like an ok guy ahhhh who cares hes white or arab or what he sooo rich who cares. - my mom like -yea he has this and that and owns a niceee house.

why is my mom and folks all about money this and that-"john our neighbour owns a bmw x5-ya now hes in finance , joe why don;t u get into that, it makes a lotttt of $$$" its like that all they think about money money and money,

 

i really hope girls as a whole aren;t like this b/c i'm not rich and i don;t think i ever will be that rich as that joey guy-he seems like he inherited a loit of money-i have cousins around his age or even older who have degreees in various areas and they are not as wealthy as this Joey guy

 

we are not poor anyways my dad owns like 2 houses in middle class areas and we live like cheap skates-folks are so cheap. buy everything on sales and dirt cheap, even if its my own money they have a problem with me spending 20 or even less dollars for a hoody at old navy. loll

[quankanne]

some people are greedy and want even though they don't need; others see money as security, and I imagine your mom falls into this latter category, since it sounds like she works hard to get where she is/what she has, and she doesn't want you kids to have to struggle like she and your dad have.

 

don't worry about being rich enough or buff enough or anything like that: work on being a good person inside and out, and seek a partner who's that way, too; and hope that when your sister marries, that the guy is a decent, fellow who will look out for and love her, period. Because deep down, I think this is what most parents want for their kids, to end up with someone who'll love them the way they do.

[Mary3]

I saw a beautiful young asian girl, maybe 22 years old, with an older white guy, maybe 44 years old with some grey, and they stepped inside an expensive car ( cant remember what kind it was ) and they sped off.

 

I thought wow if you are asian , and want to get the rich guys, you have to be a hot asian.

 

I've never seen a homely ,overweight, asian girl stepping inside a Mercedes Benz with an older white rich guy.

 

But that same thing applies with the young *white* hot looking girl getting into a car with an older rich guy.

 

Seems the hot women do get the goods.

 

I dont care much for that , rather prefer a great guy with a super personality driving a average car ( hopefully 5 years old or newer , lol ) with a steady decent job.

 

Its Chemisty baby !

[erika2610]

today my mom who cleans ppls houses has been going to this guy and his wifes house both around late 20's -early 30's , the guy is white and the girl is e indian, guy has 2 cars a porsche and a merceds suv each like 150 000 and is moving into a 2.3 million or more house in a rich area.

my moms like woow this guy is rich and all and that his newly wedded wife must be very lucky to marry such a rich guy. thats all shes been braggin about at dinner and tellin my sis to marry a rich guy --ya now u get a better life this and that. "wow the house is so nice i would love to have it and live in it " ."joey's wife must be soo lucky ah jenny(my sis) make sure when u find a husband make sure he has a good job and is rich, it really makes all the difference in ur life".

ok are chinese girls or girls as a whole like this and also are u more willing to marry and date a non asian or go even out with the guy just b/c he is rich. it seems like they are gung ho about dating and marrying someone chinese-we are chinese , but if that person is rich like a doctor or just plain rich like owning a 2 million or more house -the guy is like an ok guy ahhhh who cares hes white or arab or what he sooo rich who cares. - my mom like -yea he has this and that and owns a niceee house.

why is my mom and folks all about money this and that-"john our neighbour owns a bmw x5-ya now hes in finance , joe why don;t u get into that, it makes a lotttt of $$$" its like that all they think about money money and money,

 

i really hope girls as a whole aren;t like this b/c i'm not rich and i don;t think i ever will be that rich as that joey guy-he seems like he inherited a loit of money-i have cousins around his age or even older who have degreees in various areas and they are not as wealthy as this Joey guy

 

we are not poor anyways my dad owns like 2 houses in middle class areas and we live like cheap skates-folks are so cheap. buy everything on sales and dirt cheap, even if its my own money they have a problem with me spending 20 or even less dollars for a hoody at old navy. loll

 

No, Joel, not all of us are only after money. Isn't this like your 20th thread about this subject?

[SmoochieFace]

I used to think that way about women in general but I know better. I am happily involved with a GOOD woman who isn't impressed by the flash. Decent and down-to-earth woman ARE out there... just have to look for them.

[alphamale]

ok are chinese girls or girls as a whole like this

my chinese female acquaintance, Wei, is like this. She dates guys based upon how much they make. She is good looking and skinny but divorced with two kids and about 35 yrs old. She like $$$.

[Mary3]

Some women play up their bodies to lure rich guys.

It works alot of the time.

I dont lure my hot body for the mucho bucks.

I want to lure their desire to ONLY if there is a good man inside who puts me #1.

Rich daddys can kiss my A** if they dont know how to treat me. I am not impressed with the wealth.

I guess I am the minority white girl with the nice body who does not rape a mans wallet )

[alphamale]

I guess I am the minority white girl with the nice body who does not rape a mans wallet )

they all say that MARY3

[Yamaha]

some people are greedy and want even though they don't need; others see money as security, and I imagine your mom falls into this latter category, since it sounds like she works hard to get where she is/what she has, and she doesn't want you kids to have to struggle like she and your dad have.

 

don't worry about being rich enough or buff enough or anything like that: work on being a good person inside and out, and seek a partner who's that way, too; and hope that when your sister marries, that the guy is a decent, fellow who will look out for and love her, period. Because deep down, I think this is what most parents want for their kids, to end up with someone who'll love them the way they do.

 

Word......

 

How your mom is talking is why the "gold digger" women get perpetuated.

Women really don't expect to marry a rich guy but they will do back flips when a rich guy notices them. I guess it is the security issue with women.

Many men will do what ever to become rich and get any women they desire. It is an endless cycle and BOTH sexes play a role.

If you want the hot chick that you figure you can't have then you will have to be like your mom's client.

[morrigan]

Some people basically see wealth as a sign of security.

 

Anyway, read up on Doris Duke and Barbara Hutton, they were two wealthy women who had plenty of male gold diggers trying to manipulate them.

[Mary3]

Originally Posted by Mary3

I guess I am the minority white girl with the nice body who does not rape a mans wallet )

 

they all say that MARY3 } Alpha

 

They may all say it Alpha but I live it....

 

If you have alot of toys and luxeries and thought all this would get you the chick and it didnt ...well then you can kiss my patooty !

[PlumPrincess]

Hi Joel,

 

I'm Asian myself and IMHO you won't be able to get good answers on this forum for your problem with your mom and the rest of your family. I somewhat doubt that people will completely understand the traditional Asian mentality. Their advice is well-meaning and sincere, but I doubt that are really able to grasp your problem. (Sorry guys, no offence meant )

 

Your family seems to be very conservative and anxious to preserve their culture in this strange environment. I don't think your mom understands the Canadian culture nor is she interested in understanding it, she is also not interested that you will understand it. To be frank, I believe that your emotional intelligence quotient in general is not the highest, but it has become even worse because of the fact that your parents are sheltering you so much from outer influences. There's a clash of very different cultures and values and just as your mom doesn't understand people here, just as they will not understand where you are coming from. They won't understand the pressure of being the good son who preserves the values, who honors his parents, who marries the right girl, etc., they also won't understand the different attitudes when it comes to dating. You should try to find people who were in similar situations as you are now and understand the difficulty of this balancing act between traditional culture at home and Western culture outside and at school. Look for an Asian forum on the internet, I'm sure that you will find advice there more likely that fits your situation better.

[Panhandler]

Think about it, a friend of yours is a lowlife and mistreats you, talks behind your back all the time gets on your nerves and you hate him. But then he's always giving you cool stuff he don't need, and is treating you to different things. So you like this guy just because of his money, and keep him as a friend.

 

That is the powerful bond of money, it can be used to give people things they desire and thus make them happy. So obviously any rich guy is going to be able to buy things and please his womans desires, so any woman or man as may be the case will be attracted to that virtue.

 

But women are seduced into intimate relationships, and money may be one of the things that help smooth out the seduction climate. By making a girl happy and easy going, she's more likely to melt into your arms. So many can be useful to securing a lot of hard to please, high esteemed women.

 

But if you don't have money, there's not a lot of real rich guys to go around so you make your persistance with winning girls the rich sexy guys don't want. The best way to make up for money is to be healthy and really good looking.

 

But I find this, and it's very true, good looking guys with me that have a pretty good amount of money are very picky about girls. I won't give most girls the time of day cause maybe they are going out with some mediocre looking fellow. I'm not there to pick that girl up, she can go drop dead as far as I'm concerned.

 

So there's you oppertunity, you can find girls in your class range, and hit on them persistently, work on making friends and figuring out how to get a girlfriend and you're set. I'm personally too fickle, and too much of a player to go steady with one girl, and a lot of girls might not like that at all. But I'll tell you what a majority of girls don't want some average looking guy who's broke, the better your financial future looks the more secure you look as mate, and lover bottom line.