Should I breakup with her?

[EdN]

I have been in a relationship with a girl for about six months; she is a very good girl who respects and loves me so much.

She is so happy I am with her; she would do whatever it takes to keep me happy. And the chance that this girl will cheat on me is nearly zero.

But for some reason, I still don't feel attracted to her. I don't think appearance is the only factor is a relashionship, but in this case its more about the lack of physical attraction.

In addition, I don't feel we have things in common, we have a different taste in everything; I lately struggle to find something we both like.
It starts with small things like music or books and to bigger things like passion and goals and lifestyle.

Lately, I am starting to worry about this so much, this is my first real relationship (even though I am 29), and I am beginning to wonder what it's like to be with someone else.

On the one hand, she loves me, respects me, and will never do anything to hurt me, and it's hard to find a girl who loves me that much and accepts me for who I am with no conditions at all. And on the other hand, I cannot feel any attraction at all.

What should I do?

[Alpacalia]

Do you think you could be happy in this relationship in the long run? Have you considered trying to find common ground or activities that you both enjoy?

Take a step back and ask yourself if you still feel the same, if there are still sparks between you two. Are there any major life events that recently happened that could have caused a change in the relationship? Are you still physically intimate? Is there a difference in how you are with each other now compared to before?

It takes time and effort to build a strong relationship and it's completely normal to feel like the flame has died out after a period of time.

Lust fades, love isn't immediate, it takes time to build. People confuse lust and love all the time.

Regardless, I wish both of you the best. If you find that you no longer feel the same, it's best to let each other go. However, if there's still something there and you want to try and rekindle the relationship, then put in the effort and time to make it work.

You don't have to find her attractive if that's not how you feel, but you should still continue to wish for her to find a partner who loves and appreciates her for who she is.

 

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, EdN said:

 it's hard to find a girl who loves me that much and accepts me for who I am with no conditions at all. And on the other hand, I cannot feel any attraction at all.

6 mos is a good time to reassess compatibly and attraction. In this case, unfortunately both are missing. Don't coast along out of fear. It's not fair to either of you.

Edited April 22, 2023 by Wiseman2

[ShyViolet]

Yes absolutely, you need to break up with her.  It's not fair to her that she is becoming invested in a relationship with a person who isn't even attracted to her and doesn't have the same feelings towards her that she does towards you.  If 6 months into it, you know you aren't attracted to her, this relationship has no future and will end sooner or later.  It's not right to waste her time.  Let her go so she can find someone else who actually does want to be with her.

[stillafool]

I have to ask you, why would you get in a relationship with a woman you aren't physically or mentally attracted to?  You not only are wasting your time but hers as well.  The only solution is to break up with her immediately and look for what you really want in a woman.

[ExpatInItaly]

20 hours ago, EdN said:

What should I do?

Break up. 

You see her as a good friend. Not a lover and romantic partner. That won't work in the long-term. It's time to kindly let her go. 

[JTSW]

If you don't feel it then break up.

Don't keep her hanging on a thread.

That's not fair to her.