Can't stop thinking about him even though breakup was for the best

[bubbleangel]

Hi all. I was dumped about [x] months ago, we were long distance nevermets. went no contact, but back in contact about a month ago. He started pursuing some other girl, didnt work out for a bit, but [x] weeks ago he was saying "I love you" to me and "I realized youre what I want". It felt good...I think a few days ago I screwed up our second chance though, I think part of that was I was too emotional and ler anxiety get in the way. It hurts really badly because now he's not speaking to me again, I think hes speaking to her though. I tried texting yesterday asking how hes doing and I got dry quick responses. It hurts so bad being rejected all over again. The thing is, Ive pretty much accepted that the breakup was for the best. But I still think about him constantly and cant let go? I'm hurting so bad...We were together everyday for [x] years...We never met but it hurts so bad? I understand we both arent right for each other but I just woke up from having 5 different dreams of him texting me or asking me to call. I'm so sad 😢 I dont have any friends to talk to. Does anybody have any advice? Like, I can rationalize that this was for the best. But knowing that I made someone so unhappy even though I tried my best to be a good girlfriend, hurts so bad? :,( How do I let go...when hes on my mind constantly?

Edited April 23, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Wiseman2]

10 minutes ago, bubbleangel said:

...We never met but it hurts so bad? 

Sorry this happened. It hurts because you invested and became attached.

Since you never met, consider this your ticket to freedom from being stuck in a cyber relationship. 

Do you work, go to school, live with parents?

Try to broaden your social horizons. Join some groups and clubs, volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness,  take some classes and courses. Start talking to and making friends with people you see in person regularly.

Additionally get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps. Start talking to and meeting local real-life men in person. After a few messages, suggest meeting up in person within a couple of weeks.

You will be much happier and less frustrated when you have more friends and can date someone regularly and build a real life relationship.

 

Edited April 23, 2023 by Wiseman2

[stillafool]

2 hours ago, bubbleangel said:

Does anybody have any advice?

Yes stop texting him now because he doesn't want to hear from you.  It's better for you to not talk to him now that it's over so he won't continue rejecting you which is painful.  We all go through break ups and we have to find ways to self soothe ourselves.  You say you don't have any friends well now is the time to get out and meet people you can see and socialize with in real life.  It was unsustainable to have a long distance relationship for 3.5 years with someone you have never met in person.