any suggestions ?????

[Patty]

Hi.I need help on this one.Every time I talk to my guy friend on my messenger the screen gets silent alot and I ask how he is ,how his day is then it gets silent.Then we both hardly can come up with stuff to say.Then one time he said what are you thinking?" 'i said "im thinking of what to say'he says' "have you ever thought about cybersex?"now when ever the screen is silent he thinks of cybersex.He really surprised me.I didnt expect it. It is ok when the first time the conversation starts out we say "How was your day,etc then it fades,then I try to talk about the weather or something.That fades too.Then he gets bored fast if its like, I cant talk sexual enough then he gets bored with me. I still have kept myself busy and still not over my other friend from India.Im always going to miss him.When he was around I can remember how much he cared for me.My heart still always aches sometimes Oneday I think im over it then im back thinking of him again.I dont think it ever goes away.I cant let go never.I just all of the sudden started thinking of him today. All of a sudden it came back today.it never does go way.there was just something so neat about him that I cant forget him.I think ill email him today.if he doesnt respond he doesnt but for some reseon I feel like I need to do it.I tried keeping busy but it didnt work.I tried going shopping to keep busy.I was begginning to think I was over it and i dont think i will ever be. I try going out places but having trouble meeting guys.I guess Im very shy and dont know how to start conversation,this is where my weaknesses are but I like it when guys come that im atrracted too.Or sometimes I see a girl at the shopping mall and say "wow" "must be nice to be with a sexy man like that" .I do like a man with a great personality too:) sorry this was long

What can I do to start a conversation ,any sugesstions?

[chick]

hi patty,

 

back in the days when i was single, i had a dead set trick that always used to work, as i could occasionally be a bit cautious in approaching guys if i didn't have a few vodkas up my sleeve!! i would ever so subtly bump into them as i walked past them.....causing them to turn around and giving me the chance to apologise and strike up a conversation! might not work for some, but always worked for me!! or if you see a guy you are attracted to, give him a smile and if it all looks positive, go and talk to him, what have you got to lose??? make a joke, ask him how he is, talk about the weather....anything! you only live once and you never know what might happen!

 

but why not sit back and let the guys approach you for a change? if you are out with your friends and having a good time, and you look friendly and approachable, they may end up coming to you. stop trying so hard and focus more on having a good time with your friends, rather than solely going out just to meet a guy. you will more than likely meet a guy when you least expect it, trust me! good luck.

[Patty]

hi patty, back in the days when i was single, i had a dead set trick that always used to work, as i could occasionally be a bit cautious in approaching guys if i didn't have a few vodkas up my sleeve!! i would ever so subtly bump into them as i walked past them.....causing them to turn around and giving me the chance to apologise and strike up a conversation! might not work for some, but always worked for me!! or if you see a guy you are attracted to, give him a smile and if it all looks positive, go and talk to him, what have you got to lose??? make a joke, ask him how he is, talk about the weather....anything! you only live once and you never know what might happen! but why not sit back and let the guys approach you for a change? if you are out with your friends and having a good time, and you look friendly and approachable, they may end up coming to you. stop trying so hard and focus more on having a good time with your friends, rather than solely going out just to meet a guy. you will more than likely meet a guy when you least expect it, trust me! good luck.

Thank you!

[chick]

Anytime!!!