JayKay Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 I think people are responding this because it's so damn comical! If this guy is for real, he seems more like a pre-adolescent than a real man. And the writing....it's hilarious!!! "Working on your mouth was a real buzz..." OH MY GOD! Soooo funny! Is this his idea of romance? Link to post Share on other sites
Sloppy Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 Anything will sound 'cute and romantic' if you are lonely and desperate...and digging real deep to find any trace of self-respect. You put up with anything when you have no dignity... Aussie, don't you have 'real' people in your life? Don't you have a some kind of an idea of what you expect from a man? I seriously doubt that the dentist is what any concious woman would want... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 If he was you gyno then I could understand the "buzz" about working on you... Mandy, you're sounding paranoid and guilty at the same time... it might just be my imgaination but i think the girls have picked up on something as they werent as friendly to me as they normally are..... Yesterday i think he deliberately didnt give me any spare gauze strips to put in my mouth to stop the bleeding(had to have one tooth out) he sent a nurse (i wonder if it the one he's having an affair with - she's pregnant to ) I do not know how to answer this one. It is beyond my comprehension of WHY you would put yourself in this stupid situation... Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 . . . i think the girls have picked up on something as they werent as friendly to me as they normally are . . . Hahaha, you bet they have picked up on something, they know you are his next conquest and they are disgusted by his behavior as a married man with kids and your behavior as the other woman. Women aren't stupid, they can recognize this kind of behavior a mile a way and especially since they work with him everyday, they know what his normal behavior is. Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 Mandy, I just read something you posted in another thread: About my parents, funny u mention it, the very first time i ever saw that particular dentist my Mum came with me for support, and when we came out of there she looked at me and said "he has the hots for you big time" So it would seem that all the nice, sweet things he's been doing to help you and all the extra attention he's been giving you were just a ploy to get into your pants. I think he's been playing you from the beginning, and you're falling for his manipulation. He's all but given away that this probably isn't his first affair (suspicious, untrusting wife; covering his bases right off the bat by asking you not to wear perfume and lipstick). He's also put you in your place by letting you know you're not to interfere his life. You've got enough to know that this isn't about being meant for each other. It's about a horny guy trying to get some on the side and then tossing you away when he's done. (I'm not sure if that turns you on that he wanted one thing from the beginning or if it disgusts you, but I will tell you that a healthy woman would be turned off by it.) And no matter how many times you say that you're just in it for sex and fun, your words give away the fact that you're already too emotionally invested in this for that to be the case. Be honest. You're hoping for a real relationship aren't you? You're right that in some cases, you do have to follow your heart and ignore what your head is telling you The thing is that you're letting your heart run wild and block out everything your head should be warning you against. I think you need to take a step back and get some perspective on this, and maybe talk with a counselor. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 Maybe if the dentist was a single guy, still 37 years old, most of us would just be telling you to keep your eyes open and not let it get too serious. But, sadly for you, the situation isn't like that Mandy. This man is MARRIED and taken already. You don't realize how much power you have right now, so much control...But I do think you're too young to realize what to do with it and how to walk away...For your own self respect and self worth. Guess that comes with age and personal experience in life. Link to post Share on other sites
elijahBailey Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 About 12:00am i get a text msg saying "how is my princess?" and i responded with "sore and drugged lol" Then he called and we chatted for about an hour One hour on the phone in the middle of the night and with his wife around? You're kidding us right? Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 One hour on the phone in the middle of the night and with his wife around? You're kidding us right? One hour on the phone in the middle of the night and with his wife around? You're kidding us right? this is actually typically cheating mm behaviour, along with such things as trying it on wife wife in room, pretending that they have split and becoming public to prove it etc, all of which gives more credence to the lovely charming bullshyte the mm spews to catch his prey. he seems so unconcerned with being caught etc, but this is because they are splitting up anyway etc etc. true mandys mm doesnt seem to be offering any promises, he is making fully sure he has his back covered for the future and he has to take no responsibility in this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted December 1, 2005 Author Share Posted December 1, 2005 He never told me not to call, but when I do his secretary always says he is in a meeting or with a patient and when i say please can you get him to call me, she always says i think its best you make an appointment if you want to see him. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 He never told me not to call, but when I do his secretary always says he is in a meeting or with a patient and when i say please can you get him to call me, she always says i think its best you make an appointment if you want to see him. So he doesn't want anything to do with you at work except on a professional level? Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 He never told me not to call, but when I do his secretary always says he is in a meeting or with a patient and when i say please can you get him to call me, she always says i think its best you make an appointment if you want to see him. Take how you're feeling right now and think of it amplified by about 100 times. That's about how you'll feel once you've slept with him and he decides he's had all the fun he wants from you. If you're fine that he won't take your calls, then you'll probably do fine continuing the affair. If you're not fine now, well then obviously you're not going to be fine once you're in deeper. From the sad face, I'd say you're not feeling fine about it. Is that accurate? Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted December 1, 2005 Author Share Posted December 1, 2005 erika2610 - sounds that way doesnt it? i am not sure if its the secretary thats doing that or is she doing it under his instructions. crazy_grl - well i am not really fine about it. He calls all the time, but just not from work its always from his mobile between patients and on breaks Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 erika2610 - sounds that way doesnt it? i am not sure if its the secretary thats doing that or is she doing it under his instructions. crazy_grl - well i am not really fine about it. He calls all the time, but just not from work its always from his mobile between patients and on breaks crazy_grl is right.. take this hurt and multiply it by 100.. that's the pain you're going to feel if you continue this. It's not fun at all. Have you ever been used? It's feels like crap. Utter crap. Why put yourself through that? Go out and find a single guy who you can have fun with.. who you might end u p with. Somebody who'll treat you like you should be treated. Who you can call when you're sick, or when you just wanna talk. Somebody who you can spend holidays and birthdays with. I don't think you know what you're getting or have gotten into. I would walk away now.. the deeper you get in the relationship, it's going to be sooooo much harder to leave.. and hurt so much more. Why is this guy SO special? Why is he better than a single guy? Or is it exciting that you actually 'nabbed a MM'? Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted December 1, 2005 Author Share Posted December 1, 2005 erika2610 - to be honest i dont even know how to end things with him, and we're only in the very early stages Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 erika2610 - to be honest i dont even know how to end things with him, and we're only in the very early stages I know you're only in the very early stages.. that's why it would be alot easier to get out now. Before things get too wrapped up. Just tell him you can't see him anymore. Stop calling him. Period. Tell him you've rethought everything.. and things are going too far. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted December 1, 2005 Author Share Posted December 1, 2005 erika2610 - it just all seems wrong, i am thinking of writing a letter Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 it is all wrong, thats why it seems so. tell him youre not the kind of woman he can use for a f>ck on the side. this is exactly what i wished i had said to my mm way back then. walk away with dignity and find a guy to date, any guy at all (unmarried) just to see you through this. take his lust over you as an ego boost and use it to catch yourself a nice guy. flip it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted December 1, 2005 Author Share Posted December 1, 2005 I feel so strange, I am not in love with him, i am not overly involved with him, we havent spent a lot of time together and i havent known him for a very long time BUT i some how feel hurt already over the situation, i already feel like sitting down and having a good cry....is this normal behavior? Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 erika2610 - it just all seems wrong, i am thinking of writing a letter It is wrong. Don't write a letter.. he could throw it away, just not pay attention to it. Just walk up to him, tell him you're better than this.. and walk away with your head held high knowing you did the right thing. And knowing that you deserve better and want better.. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 I feel so strange, I am not in love with him, i am not overly involved with him, we havent spent a lot of time together and i havent known him for a very long time BUT i some how feel hurt already over the situation, i already feel like sitting down and having a good cry....is this normal behavior? Yes it is. Because you like him. It's a tough situation.. knowing you want to be with him, but can't. Knowing his heart is with somebody else. If you feel like sitting down and having a good cry, go for it. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes it makes ya feel better. I know it does for me. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 I feel so strange, I am not in love with him, i am not overly involved with him, we havent spent a lot of time together and i havent known him for a very long time BUT i some how feel hurt already over the situation, i already feel like sitting down and having a good cry....is this normal behavior? it is perfectly normal behaviour mandy. nobody likes to feel used. the fact that another human wanted to take advantage of you is very upsetting. this is also the addictive nature of these relationships. it is the push pull thing, the i want you, go away thing. thats why other people may not understand how addictive they are. its psychological, and its got a hold of you, but if you carry on it WILL get much much much worse. i hope you have read depressed waitings thread. if you walk away now with your head high, at least you will be more than just another easy piece on the side of his real life. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Here's what happened. His wife figured out what was going on the other night and laid down the law. Told him she'd take all his money and his balls to boot if he didn't stop it RIGHT NOW. Which he'd deserve. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted December 1, 2005 Author Share Posted December 1, 2005 LOL Outcast Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 LOL Outcast No.. I don't think so. I think he's just doing a good job of covering his tracks at the office. He doesn't want you saying anything to them, or calling.. cuz they'll figure it out. But still, walk away.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted December 1, 2005 Author Share Posted December 1, 2005 erika2610 -this might all be in my head, but i think some have caught on because they treat me differently to before, they are more abrupt Link to post Share on other sites
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