Mistress vs. Girlfriend: What's the difference?

[iflynonstop]

Here’s my aunt’s story. She considers herself to be a mistress (not the dominatrix type). She is single, and has been involved with a married man for the last seven years. I know that society hates mistresses and feels them to be home wreckers. She’s content for things to stay as they are, even though he has no intention of leaving his wife. She thinks of this as something much more than just an affair, as though she is above that.

 

What’s the story with this? Does anyone understand how this kind of relationship works? What is the benefit to being the "other woman"? Can anyone direct me to any resources which discuss this type of relationship? Websites, forums and discussion groups, etc. that focus on mistresses?

 

She’s pretty much an outcast with the rest of my family, but I haven’t made any judgments myself. The way I see it, this is a really complex issue, so I want to learn more. It’s not as though I’m unaware that people have affairs all the time, but this kind of long-term involvement seems less common. Where can I talk to other people who carry on a similar lifestyle?

[submart]

I suggest you check out the other man/woman forum on this website and maybe re-post this there. Good luck finding out what you want.

[slubberdegullion]

A mistress says, "Oh God baby you're so goooooood!!"

A girlfriend says, "Enjoy yourself, dear. Now, where's my new diamond necklace you promised?"

A wife says, "Beige. Yes, I think I'll paint the ceiling beige."

[Scott S]

A wife says, "Beige. Yes, I think I'll paint the ceiling beige."

 

And if the phone rings in the middle of things, "I'll get it!"

[EnigmaXOXO]

Mistresses are kept woman … a little more financially savvy then your average married man booty call. Like high-priced prostitutes, they usually receive some monetary return for their time and talents. Their married boyfriend (or client) will usually set them up in an apartment that he pays for. Or he might help to pay her living expenses; or offer an exchange of cash or expensive gifts for her favors.

 

Quite simply, she's paid to be there when he needs her and keep her mouth shut.

[alphamale]

Mistresses are kept woman … a little more financially savvy then your average married man booty call.

Agreed ENIGMAXOXO...but the most financially saavy woman is the generic garden-variety wife. Mainly cause she is also a "kept" woman but does not give hubby any sex

[EnigmaXOXO]

Yep!

 

And as you know...the wife doesn't have to keep her mouth shut, either. In marriages, the "hush money" clause becomes null and void.

[guest2]

Tell your aunt to leave that sucker. That man just wants sex. Your aunt is just an object. What's in it for her? When she wants him to be there, is he there? There are still many nice men out there.