Tanya Singh Posted May 14, 2023 Share Posted May 14, 2023 I've been in a relationship with someone from 1 year. Now I moved abroad and after 4 months I kissed someone here and cheated on him. I never wanted to do this but I thought I will have some future with this new person. My bf is 5 years younger than me, he's just a innocent kid, I am 27 and he is just 22. When we fall in love I didn't care about these things, I thought everyone will accept our relationship because our caste was same but after some months I found out we have same surname and I belong to a small town my family would never agree with someone who has same surname as us. These things used to bother me all the time but I didn't have courage to leave him, I still have something for him in my heart. But after coming aboard I found someone and we kissed, I am not in a relationship with that person, I barely talk to him. I told my bf that I cheated on him and kissed someone and I like that person. And now my bf is totally broken, he stopped sleeping, his eyes are full of tears whenever I talk with him. These things are hurting me so much, I am in guilt I don't know what should I do how to fix things. I can't see him in this condition, he is a small kid, he is not mature as me .please advice what should I do. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 14, 2023 Share Posted May 14, 2023 All you can do is apologize and promise to not do it again and don't do it again. However you did say that you like this guy you kissed and felt there's a future with him. Therefore it may be better to end the relationship with your young bf and let him heal and find someone new.. You would then be free to explore this new relationship with the guy you kissed. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 14, 2023 Share Posted May 14, 2023 1 hour ago, Tanya Singh said: small town my family would never agree with someone who has same surname as us. he is a small kid, he is not mature as me . Unfortunately you may need to end it and be true to yourself. You're aware of age, maturity, social and other incompatibilities. Set both yourselves free. Are you scheduled for an arranged marriage? After you end things you can start meeting local men who are more compatible and more appropriate as far as age and social situations. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 15, 2023 Share Posted May 15, 2023 A 22-year-old man is not a "small kid." Please don't infantilize him like that. All you can do is break up with him. It is obvious that this is not a match and you aren't in love with him. Let him go. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted May 15, 2023 Share Posted May 15, 2023 He's not a kid. He's a grown adult. He is a human being with feelings and you betrayed his trust. End it with him and let him find someone nearer to him who wont hurt him. If you like this new guy then you know you wont be able to say no if he pops up again. Link to post Share on other sites
Ageless Wisdom23 Posted May 23, 2023 Share Posted May 23, 2023 Knowing all of this and having cheated on him because of a few important things that are quite serious to You, I am not seeing anything change with having a Real Relationship with him unless you really make an effort. You hurt this man and I believe you will do it again. Please, Make an effort to work as a team or leave to be free to be with whom you want. Perhaps Mr. Right is out there waiting for you who is more your type.😘 Link to post Share on other sites
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