Worth your time?

[Kassieee]

If the person you are in a relationship called to break up with you, over something someone told them that caused them not wanting to be with anymore, even if it was not true, how would you react, what would you say? Would you try communicating with them, or just say bye and respect their decision even if it may not be true.

Your s/o didn't communicate the situation to you, just flat out broke up with you without asking questions.

Would you bother defending yourself or do you think someone who just believes what someone else says is worth your voice.

 

 

Edited May 19, 2023 by justaskingok

[FMW]

Not worth your time or effort.  I can't imagine why they wouldn't talk to you and get your side of the story.  

[JTSW]

Agreed. If they truly cared they would ask you about it.

Straight up breaking up without clarifying if what they are told is true is not someone to waste your time on.

[Kassieee]

2 minutes ago, FMW said:

Not worth your time or effort.  I can't imagine why they wouldn't talk to you and get your side of the story.  

Maybe because they are in a fit of anger, hurt, and rage in that moment.

[Kassieee]

1 minute ago, JTSW said:

Agreed. If they truly cared they would ask you about it.

Straight up breaking up without clarifying if what they are told is true is not someone to waste your time on.

What if it's a marriage?

[FMW]

1 minute ago, justaskingok said:

Maybe because they are in a fit of anger, hurt, and rage in that moment.

That would be yet another reason not to waste your time.

 

[JTSW]

5 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

What if it's a marriage?

If a husband does that then he never really gave a crap about his wife.

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, justaskingok said:

 over something someone told them that caused them not wanting to be with anymore. Would you try communicating with them, or just say bye and respect their decision even if it may not be true.

Why would someone bother spreading rumors? And why would anyone listen to it without confirming it?  If someone ends it based on a rumor, there isn't much of a relationship to begin with. 

[stillafool]

I would gladly walk away from someone who didn't care enough about me to talk to me first before breaking up.  Bye. What was the rumor?

[Alpacalia]

If someone accused me of doing something that I didn't do with some wild accusation then I would probably break up with them without talking to them, point blank.

[flitzanu]

if someone ended a relationship based on unconfirmed rumors, then there is no reason that same person would ever care about discussing whether or not the rumors were true.

[Lotsgoingon]

I would call to set the record straight and THEN break up with them or celebrate their departure given how immature and cruel it is to break up with someone based on a rumor without giving the person an opportunity to respond.

But I also like the responses others recommend: to say good riddance with any explanation. I say this depends on whether defending yourself makes you feel better or not. I am assuming you know this is someone you do NOT want to be with. But if it feels more empowering to correct the record, I would do so (I'm in this camp). If it feels more empowering to just stay away I would do that.

I would quite enjoy correcting the record and then wishing them goodbye and click.

[basil67]

I broke up with a two month boyfriend after being told something about him.    I didn't tell him what I'd heard, nor did I tell him who told me. I just said something along the lines of not feeling it anymore.

Interestingly, his immediate reaction was "who have you been speaking to?"  I told him "nobody"  He then simply said that there's more fish in the sea and that was that.   However, his reaction of guessing that someone had told me something, but being unable to guess who I'd spoken to left me wondering how many people he's burned.

 

Edited May 19, 2023 by basil67