laneyinlove Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 Hey all, It's been about 9 months since my ex boyfriend broke up with me. I tried doing no contact for about a week. Before that we had been IMing each other and all but one day I just got so pissed off about how poorly he treated me I decided to stop contact. Today he IMs me saying he was worried so I told him don't be I am fine. So after that he says he wants to be friends and I say I can't be friends with him so leave me alone. He said I made him mad because I am a wonderful person that he wants to keep on his life. I said give me time and maybe we can become friends but leave me alone. He said find so long as I put it that way. Then I said but yes please leave me alone and he was upset again. In the end I told him I only wanted him to email,IM, contact me if he's serious about loving me again and he can change and give me what I need and make me happy. He said OK and "Until then". I know at the momment he's dating some 22 year old (he's 36) and that he says he is trying to delay having the talk with her but they have used the boyfriend girlfriend word on occasion. I said then you guys are official congrats and he didn't say anything. He says he's just confused by the pressure if having to commit with having kids and all and that he doesn't know how to do it. Well I told him that he will figured it out and said goodbye. Do you all think he loves me still or is just using me. He did say he misses what we had ,the feelings that came with it and he loved how I was able to play him whatever that means. I said he likes me not loves me and he said actually he rarely likes me and that he loves me far great than he likes me. I don't understand.Please help me with all of this. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
JosiePosie Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 You mean this guy is 36 years old and he is still playing games?? Yikes. It is obvious that this guy wants to keep you on a shelf and take you out whenever it is convenient for HIM. I would say, continue with the NC until he has his immature A** in order. Better yet, tell him to take a hike. I really don't like it when people play these "I don't know what I want" roles. It is so selfish. Link to post Share on other sites
J dub Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 You mean this guy is 36 years old and he is still playing games?? Yikes. It is obvious that this guy wants to keep you on a shelf and take you out whenever it is convenient for HIM. I would say, continue with the NC until he has his immature A** in order. Better yet, tell him to take a hike. I really don't like it when people play these "I don't know what I want" roles. It is so selfish. I 100% agree...you are doing the right thing by demanding that he have all or none of you. Link to post Share on other sites
mini696 Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 You mean this guy is 36 years old and he is still playing games?? Yikes. It is obvious that this guy wants to keep you on a shelf and take you out whenever it is convenient for HIM. I would say, continue with the NC until he has his immature A** in order. Better yet, tell him to take a hike. I agree with this. I really don't like it when people play these "I don't know what I want" roles. It is so selfish. I dont agree with this. Sometime people dont know what they want, and if someone isn't willing to give them the space and time needed to sort it out then they are usually a controlling manipulative person. If you feel love for someone you will give them time to get their goals and feeling in check. Mick Link to post Share on other sites
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