mitseramino Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 I met a girl at a nightclub and I recognized her as she is somewhat of a social media influencer. I’m not a fan, I just recall seeing a video of her while back. I approached her asking if she’s [name] from [social media], and she was pleasantly surprised. I asked for a picture and she was very happy to do so. She asked my name, thanked me and said it was great meeting me. Thinking back, I wish I didn’t act like a fan, but that was the only way I could think of approaching her and her friends in the moment. I then sent her the photo we took and asked if she had a good time at the club. She was super nice and said she enjoyed the show, and said it was her pleasure to take the photo. Honestly, I really like her as a person, and I’d love to see her again, but I don’t know how or what to text back, assuming I just met her and I don’t wanna come across as some weird fan, given that our interaction might’ve seemed that way. If anything, I’m ok just being friends, she seems very cool and down to earth. Any ideas? Thanks in advance everyone Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 I’d just cut to the chase and message her introducing yourself as the guy she met at x place and ask her out. There are probably tons of intimidated and scared guys who just go on and on texting nonsense online. If you want to see her again and date then ask her out. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 9 hours ago, mitseramino said: I approached her asking if she’s [name] from [social media], and she was pleasantly surprised. Pleasantly surprised, because that is her business. You are hardly the first person to recognize her and approach her. 9 hours ago, mitseramino said: She was super nice and said she enjoyed the show, and said it was her pleasure to take the photo. This sounds to me like a woman being friendly… Not a woman who is interested in dating. Honestly, women like this have a lot of men “orbiting” as “friends.” Take your shot if you must, but I would suggest that you keep your expectations low. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 13 hours ago, mitseramino said: I’m ok just being friends, she seems very cool and down to earth. Any ideas? Thanks in advance everyone Call her and ask her out. You'll get a yes or a no, nothing ventured nothing gained. If she rejects you you'll get over it. Do not play friends or seek her friendship, she must have a whole harem of men wanting to play her friend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ageless Wisdom23 Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 Bottom line Is, She wasn't snobby. All she can say is "No" in a polite way if she refuses your date offer. She may be already taken or something else. But go ahead and be bold and try. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 13 hours ago, mitseramino said: Honestly, I really like her as a person… How? You barely know her as a person. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 overall it is going to come off as you trying to ask her out as a fan, because you literally did that. even in your post you said you recognized her as an "influencer" and asked for a photo, and solidified that by communicating on social media about it with the photo. sure, "influencers" are just people, and you can ask her out, but it seems weird that you are trying to phrase the question like you aren't a "fan" but you obviously were enough of a fan to recognize her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 2 hours ago, Weezy1973 said: How? You barely know her as a person. That is my question as well. Be careful not to get too swept up in the idea of her, OP. She might truly be great, but don't forget that influencers (generally) carefully craft the image they present online. What you see on her profiles may or may not an accurate reflection of who she genuinely is. All you can do is contact her again and see if she'd like to meet up for coffee or a drink or something. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted June 1, 2023 Share Posted June 1, 2023 What is she an influencer of? If it's food, ask her if she likes onions. If she says no, she's in the minority and you know you have something special on your hands. Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted June 4, 2023 Share Posted June 4, 2023 On 6/1/2023 at 3:05 PM, BaileyB said: Take your shot if you must, but I would suggest that you keep your expectations low. Agree with this, it sounds to me like she was being friendly rather than being interested. Also consider that she probably has plenty of choice so yes keep those expectations low because rejection is a very real possibility here. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 4, 2023 Share Posted June 4, 2023 Did you notice that she didn't ask any questions of you? This shows that the whole conversation you had with her was one where she was simply polite to a stranger. It's part of what one has to do when they need to keep up a degree of low level fame. She is not interested in getting to know you. Sorry Link to post Share on other sites
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