I feel tired :

[Jim44444]

Hello guys from all around the world! I just want to say that I'm ready to give up, no feelings anymore, no interests, I feel lonely. I'm trying to change but nothing, I was waiting my life in university to be exciting, to make friends and find girlfriends, nothing of those happened, I've made only 2 friends from uni but we don't go out often , my life is a boring routine, I had so many plans so many dreams but I feel like everything is holding me back , nothing happened as I wanted, I don't know what to do , I just want to change that, today I woke up and closed to my room for "reading for the semester exams". The truth is that I pretend to read but  I just waste my time, I can't even focus I'm lost, I spend my hours on YouTube and tik tok , I see podcasts with Andrew Tate and other rich men to give me a little strength to move on but I'm not sure if I can trust them. I've never had a girlfriend, I'm virgin, I'm a looser, and I'm not an ugly guy I'm tall with good shape and face. But I'm still single, maybe it's western women who want the rich guys with expensive cars to pay everything for them, all the podcasts I see claim that dating doesn't worth it anymore, men do all the work and at the end most of them achieve nothing. Women are privileged and the society doesn't care about men's mental health. That's the thoughts of a 19 year old guy who feels tired and lonely 😢

Edited June 17, 2023 by Jim44444

[Wiseman2]

46 minutes ago, Jim44444 said:

, I spend my hours on YouTube and tik tok , I see podcasts with Andrew Tate and other rich men to give me a little strength to move on  😢

"In an interview, Andrew Tate said he was "absolutely a misogynist", and added: "I'm a realist and when you're a realist, you're sexist. There's no way you can be rooted in reality and not be sexist."

In that same video, he described women as "intrinsically lazy" and said there was "no such thing as an independent female".

Numerous social media platforms, including YouTube, Facebook, Instagram and TikTok, have banned him - with the latter saying that "misogyny is a hateful ideology that is not tolerated".

Edited June 17, 2023 by Wiseman2

[Weezy1973]

2 hours ago, Jim44444 said:

I'm trying to change but nothing, 😢

What are you trying?

[Wiseman2]

Please try not to fall prey and be brainwashed by manoshere and incels rhetoric. As you know many platforms have shut these hate groups dowGet a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting women.

Join some groups and clubs, volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, take some classes and courses and broaden your social horizons. You'll make friends and can interact regularly with women.

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[Jim44444]

4 hours ago, Weezy1973 said:

What are you trying?

I'm trying to make friends but I finally spend almost all day on internet and overthinking 

[Jim44444]

3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Please try not to fall prey and be brainwashed by manoshere and incels rhetoric. As you know many platforms have shut these hate groups dowGet a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting women.

Join some groups and clubs, volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, take some classes and courses and broaden your social horizons. You'll make friends and can interact regularly with women.

What are the best dating apps? I had a tinder account but you have to pay for everything and there are a lot of fake accounts. Maybe sports is the best way for making friends, I'm thinking very seriously about it. What do you mean with classes? University classes? I don't speak with a lot of people in my class to be fair I found some guys amd stuck with them from the first week

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, Jim44444 said:

. Maybe sports is the best way for making friends, I'm thinking very seriously about it. I don't speak with a lot of people in my class.

Tinder is 75% male because it's a hookup app. You'll just get lost in the shuffle.

Do you work? Go to school? Live with parents? 

Yes join some sports and groups and clubs. Things that are coed so you can get experience talking to and getting to know women. 

Edited June 18, 2023 by Wiseman2

[glows]

There are probably a lot of groups you can join depending on your interests. I randomly got into a kayak with a group of people I didn’t know that well and the passion stuck for many years after that, outlasting many of those friendships I did make in that group. I met outdoorsy guys and gals too and dated around but was probably too practical to really dedicate myself to a relationship. I hated studying but was careerminded. What are you studying? 

I think your confidence might get a booster the more you just go out there and explore. Who cares if it’s men or women. Just put yourself out there and meet new people. You seem down and tense. 

[Jim44444]

26 minutes ago, Skuggan said:

Hello Jim! 

First of all, I think its important to say that its nothing wrong with having those feelings and thoughts about yourself. So hold your head up, I am 100 procent sure you can make it.

Second of all, you have to start change your attitude to yourself and your people around. But we have to be clear hear; to build strong realionship with other human beings - is a skill you have to work for, it's nothing that will come to you just by doing nothing. Somethimes it will take months, even years, but as soon that you creat healthy habits, you will start thinking better thoughts about yourself.  I got some tips for you that you can start with:

1. Take a piece of paper and write down what you feel, what you think on one side. On the other side, write what you want and why. 

2. Start buildning healthy habits. I think its might be a good start logging off your screens for a while, or at least put down the time you spend on those social media. Most of the time the stuff you see out there is extreme versions of everything. Instead i reccomend you to start working out. It hasn't to be at the gym or something big. Mabey a 30 min 1 hour walk every day. Everything that can get you out from your room is good and put your body and mind in movement.  Make sure that you start eat healthy food and get your 8 hour sleep every night. Don't drain yourself out on internet! 

3. Try improve you communication skills. Try to be clear in your language and start being an active listener. Its crucial for buildning relationship. Especially if you want to build a relationship with a woman. This will take time, but practise is the wya to go. Start a journal and document your progress. 

Those three tips can start get you going. But its important that you put down the time and effort in it. Be kind to you and everyone in your environment. Its very important. 

Good luck!

 

Thank you very much my friend. I really want to get out of that miserable routine. I want to make a restart and live a happy life,  thats what I feel and I'll write on paper. Fortunately, I already eat healthy food thanks to my mother, maybe I'll start messaging my friend to go for a walk at the beach for 1 hour. Do you believe that social media are brainwashing me? They're addictive, I always say to myself just a little more and I keep scrolling for hours. Also sometimes I feel a social anxiety while talking to people, like they say something to me and I just don't know how to respond for some reason 

Edited June 19, 2023 by Jim44444

[Jim44444]

18 hours ago, glows said:

There are probably a lot of groups you can join depending on your interests. I randomly got into a kayak with a group of people I didn’t know that well and the passion stuck for many years after that, outlasting many of those friendships I did make in that group. I met outdoorsy guys and gals too and dated around but was probably too practical to really dedicate myself to a relationship. I hated studying but was careerminded. What are you studying? 

I think your confidence might get a booster the more you just go out there and explore. Who cares if it’s men or women. Just put yourself out there and meet new people. You seem down and tense. 

I study computer science , yes it's not difficult to visit a group for sure. But the difficult thing is to go out and explore, when I go out I don't know where to start, I feel a little lost

[Jim44444]

21 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Tinder is 75% male because it's a hookup app. You'll just get lost in the shuffle.

Do you work? Go to school? Live with parents? 

Yes join some sports and groups and clubs. Things that are coed so you can get experience talking to and getting to know women. 

Do you prefer any other dating app that you believe is better than tinder?

I don't work. I live with my parents for the most days

[glows]

3 hours ago, Jim44444 said:

I study computer science , yes it's not difficult to visit a group for sure. But the difficult thing is to go out and explore, when I go out I don't know where to start, I feel a little lost

That’s the whole point. Get lost. Go out if your comfort zone. Build more confidence. Don’t make excuses. Just do it and have fun.

[glows]

3 hours ago, Jim44444 said:

Do you prefer any other dating app that you believe is better than tinder?

I don't work. I live with my parents for the most days

Dating may be tough without a job or income of some kind. It would also be difficult to meet people. How do you pay the cover charge or buy yourself food when you go out for example? People usually meet over an activity although there are free things to do also. Your options will be limited. Do your parents give you an allowance?

Edited June 19, 2023 by glows

[Jim44444]

6 hours ago, glows said:

Dating may be tough without a job or income of some kind. It would also be difficult to meet people. How do you pay the cover charge or buy yourself food when you go out for example? People usually meet over an activity although there are free things to do also. Your options will be limited. Do your parents give you an allowance?

Yes they gimme money when I go out,  that won't be a problem, I always have something with me