LilChicki Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 I'm starting this thread because of replies made to me after I took the time to respond to another poster about her situation. I am not really offended...more irritated. I have stated I am VERY pro NC...and have done NC myself very dilligently up until now when I contacted my ex, to wish him a Happy Thanksgiving. I told the poster this.. not to be berated for my decision but to verify that contact CAN be made basically when you are NO LONGER hoping to reconcile with that person. What did I get for that reply? Being told that there's NO WAY I am over my ex..because I ...number one..emailed him Happy Thanksgiving WAY too early..and number two..because I am dating someone else. For the record...when you take the time to reply to another persons post that advice should be taken into consideration...even if it isn't what you agree with. It's FREE advice. I would never push MY opinion on someone else...I simply said that's what I did. No one needs to be judged for choices they make.. Just to be clear, I do not think I made the wrong choice for contacting my ex...because the outcome was a positive one...but for some reason that is not taken into account. All of a sudden it is a negative choice because it is NOT what someone else would do...OR what they believe or agree with. Does Misery love company on this website??? Somehow I think if I did the same exact thing and the outcome were negative I would hear..I told you so... Please in the future..be respectful of other peoples opinions and actions...even if it isn't what you would do or agree with. We are ALL human. Remember that. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 Nobody.. Not one person said you made a mistake to contact your Ex.. I stated that you used Thanksgiving as an excuse because you are not over him.. I also stated that you are NOT over him because you stated that you were.. I thought you should see that your actions showed him that you are not over him yet.. Nothing wrong with it.. I do think that this post that you just started shows a bit of immaturity though.. You can't alway's have it your way on a public forum.. Link to post Share on other sites
Still_In_Love Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 LilChicki, I must agree with Art_Critic...I read your previous posting and the first thing I thought was you are not over your ex. It's not a bad thing...I am presently doing NC and it's working well and I am moving on and healing myself....am I over my ex?...Not at all...if I sent her an email wishing her a Happy Thanksgiving...it would because I wanted her to know that I am missing her and indicate that I'm not over her yet! I think you're being too sensitive to what people are saying...all they're doing is pointing out to you what they see by reading what you posted. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LilChicki Posted November 8, 2005 Author Share Posted November 8, 2005 Well you all are entitled to your opinions...definetly. Ia m not defensive..I simply don't think making assumptions about someone by a few comments they make is warranted. Telling someone something I did in MY own experience is no reason to be told how you are feeeling or what my intentions are. I never asked for advice on MY situation. I don't need it. I am content with my choice. Thats all I will say on this subject. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 If you are on a public forum, you will get opinions. You can do the Internet equivalent of sticking your fingers in your ears and saying LALALALALALA or you can read them and consider them. What you can't do is tell people what to tell you or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LilChicki Posted November 8, 2005 Author Share Posted November 8, 2005 Gee OutKast..I think I wrote the same exact thing in another post.....how odd... Link to post Share on other sites
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