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Leonita_l

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Leonita_l

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Hi, so me and my bf have been dating for 4 months now. We met day before Valentines Day. On Valentines Day (next day) we met up again and he gave me chocolate. We did text everyday. On Womens Day he texted me Womens Day and we met up shortly and he gave me a rose and strawberries, he knows my fave colour is red and he asked at flower shop the most reddest rose. At begining we went out almost every weekend. Now we barely see each other and even we have plans either him or i cancel bc we're busy. Its been a month since we last seen each other but we do text everyday and send pics. We still like each other but i wish we can meet each other more. When we do hang out we just talk, snuggle, kiss and overall have fun.

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Yeah if you are long distance those can be challenging to maintain unless there is a real intense chemistry. Also keep in mind that there is a good chance he could be talking to other women. Overall you two have only met once so it isn't yet a big deal. 

Just continue to try to make plans and if there is indeed a mutual desire to get together again it will happen.

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1 hour ago, Sony12 said:

Yeah if you are long distance those can be challenging to maintain unless there is a real intense chemistry. Also keep in mind that there is a good chance he could be talking to other women. Overall you two have only met once so it isn't yet a big deal. 

Just continue to try to make plans and if there is indeed a mutual desire to get together again it will happen.

we do want to see each other but he can be busy or is with his brother. He's like an hour and half drive to my city. We did met up like almost every weekend when we started talking

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1 hour ago, stillafool said:

What does he say when you ask to see him more?

he says he'll see if he's free, cause last time we were planning to meet they had guests and he had to drive them and one time he had to take care of his grandma cause she was alone home

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also to mention these days he has been texting me first. Also i am struggling with mental health plus i overthink (mostly negative but then i remind myself to not to)

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4 minutes ago, Leonita_l said:

we do want to see each other but he can be busy or is with his brother. He's like an hour and half drive to my city. We did met up like almost every weekend when we started talking

Do you both work? Do you both have your own place? Do you both have cars or access to transportation?

Are you concerned he's losing interest by making excuses every weekend? Keep in mind people are not "too busy" for whatever is important to them.

If you were seeing each other regularly and now he's suddenly too busy every weekend, this is something to take note of. Texting is not a relationship. 

Try to find out what's really going on. 

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12 minutes ago, Leonita_l said:

he says he'll see if he's free, cause last time we were planning to meet they had guests and he had to drive them and one time he had to take care of his grandma cause she was alone home

Who is "they"?  Does he live with his parents?

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7 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Who is "they"?  Does he live with his parents?

yes, he still lives with his parents, brothers and grandma

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14 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Do you both work? Do you both have your own place? Do you both have cars or access to transportation?

Are you concerned he's losing interest by making excuses every weekend? Keep in mind people are not "too busy" for whatever is important to them.

If you were seeing each other regularly and now he's suddenly too busy every weekend, this is something to take note of. Texting is not a relationship. 

Try to find out what's really going on. 

im looking for job, he is working with parents outside like chopping woods and stuff, mostly in yard. I dont have a car so he usually comes to pick me up and we go around, since he has a car.

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I'm sorry but it sounds like the two of you aren't really ready to sustain a long distance relationship at this point in your lives, though you'd both like to.   The fact that you don't drive and he has a lot of things going on with his family make it more difficult.   Maybe this is as much face to face dating time possible.  

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Date locally if you have no car or means to see someone. He’s doing all the driving and that bound to burn someone out. Sure, the butterflies and initial high of a new relationship is great at first but you’re seeing a guy who seems stretched thin with other family commitments.

Do focus on getting a job, get a bus pass and get a drivers licence. You don’t have to own a car to be mobile. Use one of those shared cars if it’s available in your locale. Rent a car. I’m sorry this is not working out. Don’t depend on your partner to drive out and see you. I think this is fizzling out. At the very least get a job and pay your share of the gas if he can’t afford gas to see you. 

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An hour and a half's drive is so near... if you two wanted to get together, you absolutely could do it more than once a month. The fact that you haven't, is a pretty telling sign. Looks like this relationship has run its course, IMO.

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May l ask how old you both are?

Would it be possible for you to take the bus to his city and visit him for a day? Espacially if he needs to stay home with his grand ma, l'm sure she'd appreciate an extra partner to play cards with. 

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This relationship has run its course.  Just texting each other is not a relationship.  Dating is an in-person activity.  If you are both not making the effort to see each other, then it shows where your priorities are.  Next time date someone who lives closer.  I would never get into a relationship with someone who lives an hour and a half drive away.  It's just a big waste of time.

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12 hours ago, Leonita_l said:

im looking for job, he is working with parents outside like chopping woods and stuff, mostly in yard. I dont have a car so he usually comes to pick me up and we go around, since he has a car.

Is there public transport where you live?  Can it get you to his area?

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This sounds like it may be a problem in even having a relationship if you both don't get on the same page.  I'd refer to it as a Close  Friendship whenever you both Can arrange to 🤕hang out.  You need to talk about this.

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This is not a relationship - this is a friendship but not a relationship.  He's not making much of an effort to see you or communicate.  A person will stop at NOTHING for someone or something they want.  

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