Is She Slow to Warm up or is This Something Else?

[Lotsgoingon]

it’s just so confusing to me. How can one show interest and excitement in the future and express how she wants to continue seeing me one week to this kind of behavior the next? 

Dude, are you kidding me? People all the time show high interest and then fade. All the time. Perhaps most of the time. Get rid of the confusion. Confusion means she isn't responding to you in the way you expect. Translation: she's not interested. Doesn't matter what she said two weeks ago. Actions are what matter. 

The job stuff is all vague. Some of us mentioned this earlier--that job vagueness is a way of telling a guy I don't want to hang with you. It's a hint. Sounds like you got excited after the initial dates. But the gap in texting--pay attention to that! 

There is nothing in the slightest bit confusing here. She either lost interest or never had interest in the first place. 

BTW: to answer your question. Lots of folks enjoy meeting people and commit beyond what they really feel and then pull back. Some do it for people pleasing reasons. Others are fun extroverts who in the moment find almost everyone attractive and fun. Some people are in denial---they really don't want to date at all, but they haven't admitted that to themselves. Or she might have met a guy who interests her more than you. Quit asking the why here. Just respond to the reality. 

You being confused = a no. Relationships are not majority rule. You have to be like 90 percent seriously interested to go forward. So any confusion is a no. Any mixed signals indicate a no, a no being no romantic interest. Learn that lesson and you'll save a ton of time and avoid a ton of pain. If someone is genuinely interested in you, they will make that interest absolutely clear to you. You'll feel it. 

[Alpacalia]

There seems to be an attraction between you, but it seems like she's a little more emotional guarded or less emotionally open than you are right now. That's not necessarily a cause for concern. 

She might just be enjoying herself and not looking for a quick commitment, so she's creating some space. Alternatively, she might be busy and not prioritize someone she's only been on four dates with. Either way, it's a positive sign that she's responding to texts and still interested in going out.

It’s early days my man. Be patient, don't put too much pressure on her, and don't read too much into her response time. Focus on yourself and feeling confident during the time between dates, and continue enjoying getting to know each other to see if you're compatible and want the same things. The worst-case scenario is that she's not looking for anything serious, but you still get to experience a connection with someone. The best-case scenario is that the interest grows during future dates and it leads to something more.