Author Keeves1 Posted September 4, 2023 Author Share Posted September 4, 2023 4 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: My trouts…I might have missed something in reading. 1. it’s too soon to be dating someone new sfter a 4 yr relationship like ehat you had. You aren’t over her yet emotionally snd aren’t ready for a new relationship. 2. should cut communication from her for about the rest of the year. 3. when did the arguments start? What were they about? I cannot remember what the arguments were about sorry as the last time we had arguments were 3 months ago.. But what I do know is that it varies from small things to bigger things Link to post Share on other sites
Author Keeves1 Posted September 4, 2023 Author Share Posted September 4, 2023 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Have they been asking questions? Yeah lol Edited September 4, 2023 by Keeves1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 4, 2023 Share Posted September 4, 2023 It's a good thing to confine in your parents if you are close to them and they're a good support system to you. I found that part hard after a breakup, having to tell friends, family, coworkers, neighbors why the boyfriend isn't around anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 4, 2023 Share Posted September 4, 2023 (edited) Yes, you would be wise to take a break from dating until you feel better. She has a good point - people don’t like coming home after a hard days work only to hear about their partner’s stress and conflict at work. While relationships are wonderful and we all work to listen and support our partner, if she was feeling like this relationship was a one way street - that is good feedback that you really need to hear. And considering the number of posts that you make and the way you like to discuss every little detail… I imagine that she has a good point. Consider this a learning experience. Personally, I don’t think this relationship was going to work out for you because there were a lot of incompatibilities - sexual incompatibility being a significant problem here too. Edited September 4, 2023 by BaileyB 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Keeves1 Posted September 5, 2023 Author Share Posted September 5, 2023 5 hours ago, BaileyB said: Yes, you would be wise to take a break from dating until you feel better. She has a good point - people don’t like coming home after a hard days work only to hear about their partner’s stress and conflict at work. While relationships are wonderful and we all work to listen and support our partner, if she was feeling like this relationship was a one way street - that is good feedback that you really need to hear. And considering the number of posts that you make and the way you like to discuss every little detail… I imagine that she has a good point. Consider this a learning experience. Personally, I don’t think this relationship was going to work out for you because there were a lot of incompatibilities - sexual incompatibility being a significant problem here too. Yes there was alot of problems within our relationship and I honestly don’t know if we would break up or not if everything was good except the sexual part… if it makes sense? or maybe the sex would be better If I stopped complaining and stressing my ex out… who knows? I remember that when we came home from vacation we tried to have sex but she still complained so I said: «I’m going to stop because I don’t want you to still be hurt» She has thrown away all the dildos and lubes when she moved out. I’ll hope she will find sex more pleasing with her new partner… 😔 from there it went downhill. I’ve started read a book «come as you are» that was recommended by Els on loveshack. I’ve also been in contact with my GP/doctor and asked for a conversation specialist. I don’t know if that is what is called in English? The reason I need one is because I could have someone to talk to and to get clarity. Sometimes having things stored away in the stomach and not let it out will make me more insane and crazy over time. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 5, 2023 Share Posted September 5, 2023 7 hours ago, Keeves1 said: The reason I need one is because I could have someone to talk to and to get clarity. Sometimes having things stored away in the stomach and not let it out will make me more insane and crazy over time. Excellent idea and it doesn't mean we need a life time of talking about it. When my ex and I broke up I spoke to a therapist once and what she told me was enough to give me peace. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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