On/off relationship

[supremescorpio]

Hi everyone, 

I really need some advice. I know what the right thing to do is, but I just wanted to others opinion on it. For context, I was recently with someone for almost 3 years and it’s been on/off & has progressively gotten worse this past year. Our fights have reached the point of no return and I know it’s best to cut the cord while we don’t hate each other yet. 

On Friday my gf & I (well I think my ex gf now) were talking on the phone and she had told me that recently she had kept getting texts from someone who obviously had the wrong number and told the person that she wasn’t who they thought she was. Mind you, this person was trying to purchase a yacht from someone. He told her that he thinks it was destined that they be friends. 

She told me that since he was trying to purchase a yacht that he obviously had money & told me to my face that she was an opportunist and would basically try to get money or other things from him. I told her that she never asked me if I was comfortable with her doing that and she quickly got defensive and told me that she doesn’t need permission of who she can and can’t talk to. 

I could tell that she was already in a bad mood the minute she had pulled up to my house because she instantly asked me “did you bring the piece of gum that I asked for” and I told her no I forgot and she said “how could you forget when I literally just asked you over the phone.” From that moment I knew I should have let her go home because it went downhill from there. 

I brought it up to her how she had been in a very pissy mood ever since we were on the phone and told her she was very defensive when I brought up the guy she was texting.

She called me insecure, said she wasn’t even doing anything yet and they had only exchanged 10 messages so far. It escalated from there and she argued with me in front of my house. Told me to get [ ] out of her car, that if I didn’t get out she’d drag me out, yelled at me so loud that my sisters had to come out and told me to get inside. Now my family hates her. 

I ended up blocking her number and told her if she was going to kick me out of her car AGAIN then it was over. Did I overreact with my reaction? 

 

(Forgot to mention that we are both women as well.)

Edited July 11, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Alpacalia]

16 minutes ago, supremescorpio said:

Did I overreact with my reaction? 

Your relationship has already deteriorated beyond repair.

Sorry to say but your former girlfriend was more interested in getting something from the guy texting her than the relationship she had with you. She's verbally and physically abusive.

Bad news.

Do you really need further confirmation? 

Cut the cord, stay away and seek out a healthier relationship. It sounds like you're already on the right track by blocking her number. It was a reasonable reaction to her abusive behavior. 

[Wiseman2]

Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately you're in an abusive situation. Please block and delete her and all her people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Permanently.

You dogded a bullet. Please read up on abusive relationships. 

[ExpatInItaly]

11 hours ago, supremescorpio said:

told me to my face that she was an opportunist and would basically try to get money or other things from him

You should be glad you're rid of her, because that's not normal behaviour. 

It sounds like she has got a lot of issues and isn't a vevy decent person. You didn't over-react. It was time to let go. 

[JTSW]

16 hours ago, supremescorpio said:

She called me insecure, said she wasn’t even doing anything yet

Yet. Meaning she is planning to.

You did the right thing getting rid of this nasty toxic woman OP.

She is so abusive and clearly planning on seeing other men, not caring about your feelings.