Total Brat!!

[bunnzy]

My fiance has a much younger sister. He is 29 and she is only 10. My fiance also has a 10 yr old. Thier mother and older sister are constantly telling my fiance what to do with his kids, and out of respect for them, he never tells them what to do with thier kids, they get offended when he does.

 

He has needed there help since he has custody of his kids and has been a single father for 5 years. He is grateful for their help and support and so respects their decisions in parenting.

 

The problem is that his younger sister (same age as his daughter) is a Total Brat. And i mean never ever disciplined. She rotates between 'little adult' to 'giggly teenager' to 'sulky baby'. She does whatever she wants, whenever she wants, and never gets told off. She throws tantrums and pouts when she wants something and she always gets it. For example. Sister and my Fiances 2 daughters were doing Ballet a year ago. Sister wasnt very good, and started playing up in class, decided she was sick of it and wanted to quit. Because Mother was taking the daughters as well as the sister, the daughters had to give up Ballet also.

 

That is just one of many cases. She is disobedient, cant concentrate, loud, obnoxious and i just really do not like her. During Monday night family nights, we have a bit of a lesson and she is less attentive than my fiances son, who is 6. When i asked her to stop playing with her other cousin, who is a baby, my fiance shook his head. Noone tells her not to do something.

 

I am so frustrated. Just had to vent. Any advise would be appreciated. My fiance and his kids are great, it is his sisters that are driving me nuts, even his mum and dad are wonderful.

[Lil Honey]

When you get married, what will the situation be like? Will you still see the people that frustrate you as much or will you see them less . . . or Heaven forbid more often?

 

If you will see them as much or more, consider if their input will drive a wedge in your relationship. Just as you tried to correct the girl and your finance shook his head as if to tell you not to correct her, can get to be a source of irritation and discord between the two of you. Further, you need to discuss your responsibilities in regard to disciplining his daughter. It's info that you will need when you become his wife.